7 Things Sex Education Should Have Taught Us But Didn’t

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Mark Manson is a dating coach, writer and world traveler. He writes on how people can improve their emotional and dating lives, as well as social commentary and various life experiences at MarkManson.net.

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  1. FlyingKal says:

    Hi Mark,
    One question: 3. Sex is not a reflection of your value as a person.
    / ..cut.. /
    Nobody wins in this arrangement. Everybody gets frustrated. People lie. Some people get raped. And it’s no coincidence that sexual violence and divorce are highest in countries where this culture of sexual shame persists.

    Are you really sure that sexual violence and divorce are correlated this way?
    I mean, I would assume that sexual violence, if at all correlated, were higher in countries where divorce were more or less impossible to obtain, prevented by law and/or social pressure.

    Good writing otherwise. Thanks.

    • Glad you are thinking and writing about these things

      #6 is wrong. Recent scientific studies illustrate the women are aroused the same if not more than men by visual stimuli. Also more areas of the brain light up than in females than males when they are exposed to visual and physical sexual stimuli. We are finding that not only do women possibly have what would be classified as a higher sex drive it lasts longer througout their lives than men. Women have just gotten better at hiding their sex drives in cultures that condemn women for these thoughts and feelings.

      #7 I will use my own case study to explain to you why there are problems with your thinking on #7. Due to societal pressure and religious contraints the best thing many young people can do with their sexuality is get married. I was married at 18 to a very hot young muscular beautiful man who was/is my best friend. Because sex was encouraged after marriage we had the safety of monogamy and marriage to experiment with our sexuality. It made the marriage and our sexuality blossom. I did not see the same with my peers who were just hooking up. We were lucky we put having children off until our 30s not only did it allow us to both get higher degrees in science, we were able to have sex pretty much everywhere.

      One time we were having a garden party a few years ago. I came in the house to grab something and overheard my husband talking with two buddies ( okay I was evesdropping). One asked if it was weird
      ( I think he meant ” sexually constraining” ) being married for so long. My husband said “What did I miss? STD’s. unwanted pregnancy, a loss of money, or lots of crazy hanging around—no thank you— I like what i got going on here!” We are now 38 so we’ve been married 20 years and I can honestly say the sex gets better with age.

      ARe there times when there are dry spells in marriage? ABSOLUTELY! But my guess is its much less than being single. When my husband was in grad school and working full time, he was exhausted and there was very little sexual activity. When I was on bed rest due to our pregnancies there was a long dry spell. Somehow it makes your regular sex even better though. It allows one to appreciate when there are really good years in a marriage.

      NO ONE I know who got married young like we did , is mentally stable ,and has a healthy sexual relationship wishes to have had dated more before they got married. That is fantasy thinking and probably something your parents should take a hard look at. Its not based in reality. For example my husband loves Beyonce–he’s a middle aged white Swedish dude, even if he and Beyonce were single there is no chance he is getting Beyonce. He knows this ( I still dress up as Beyonce and do a little song and dance though) . There is probably little chance your parents would have had much action in their pre-marriage lives. They need to learn to be grateful for the action they’re getting now and have no regrets. Regrets are childish things.

      I am glad that a young man is thinking and writing about sexuality. It is very important. Just do a little more hard research next time.

  2. I think you can avoid a lot of the drama on #6 largely by staying away from the “it’s natural” claims that you don’t really provide any evidence for.

    If a man is born with a high sex drive, that doesn’t give him a right to force himself on women. But it also doesn’t make him a pervert, horndog, womanizer, monster, or rapist in waiting. Seriously, why is this so complicated?

    Your last point stands INDEPENDENT of what is “natural” or not. Male sexuality honestly and respectfully expressed simply should not be demonised in the ways you listed. There is no justification for it.

    • Alan Siebuhr says:

      I don’t understand what you’re trying to say. It goes along with a stereotype that GMP contradicts daily: men cannot control their sexual urges. Since this is not true (and it blows my mind that people believe it is), a man with a higher sex drive, though easily “turned on.” can control himself.

      In fact, I think that statement isn’t demonizing male sexuality since he states that a higher sex drive, though not permitting a man to force himself onto another man or woman, doesn’t mean that man is a horrible human being. He just has a high libido.

      • I didn’t say he was demonising them. I said he was listing ways in which male sexuality is demonised.

        The point is you do not need to build that conclusion on a shaky naturalistic fallacy (which the author posted not a shred of evidence for) in order to reach that conclusion. It is simply not a crime to have a high libido and to express it in those ways.

        I’m saying dispense with the naturalistic fallacy crap. It’s a bit like how because so many gay-bashers said being gay isn’t natural, we got drawn into the argument of whether it was or not. Whereas really, the proper response is “…..So what?” We’re the human race. We’ve been doing “unnatural” things ever since we baked a loaf of bread. To complain about doing “unnatural” things in the 21st century is doing so extremely too late, and is all too often the hallmark of an agenda. The natural end of most human beings, but for our actions, is dying young of predation, exposure, and tooth infections.

        • still can't log in says:

          I agree with OirishM. I just want to add, I didn’t leave sex ed for my kids to “society.” As parents we took on the responsibility ourselves. My wife and I didn’t need anyone to “educate” us other then our parents and tomorrow we celebrate our 39th year of marriage and our love life is grrrrrreat.

  3. cicatricella says:

    I was with you until point 6. I am sure that men and women do experience sex differently – we must do. But the way you phrased that paragraph implied that we experience it qualitatively differently, which I do believe to be false.

    • Same here, cicatricella. I was going to share this brilliant article until I reached point 6 BS and hoped that nobody would ever read this article. These are outdated stereotypes and not the quality that I am used to from GMP. :(

    • Seems to me you’re reading this through a very specific, decidedly contrarian lens. I really think the author goes out of his way here to repeatedly reinforce that the difference is NOT qualitative…

    • Also, the assumption that feminism asserts that men and women are the same. A lot of new wave feminists believe and celebrate that no, men and women are not the same, but that doesn’t mean we still shouldn’t have the same basic human rights.

      • I’m so glad someone said it! Feminism is absolutely not trying to enforce the opinion that men and women are the same. Of course there are many different types of feminist and some may believe this. But feminism in its original form without any media skew put on it is simply the believe that women and men should have equal rights. Not that they are the same.

  4. “that teenagers will always do exactly what you tell them not to and screw themselves up in the process.”

    Except for the fact that for most of human history, they didn’t. Since you’re making such sweeping generalizations, I’ll make one in exchange. Teenagers didn’t do exactly the opposite of what adults told them to do, there was this odd thing called respect. I know, how antiquated.

    This entire notion that kids are just going to do anything and everything their little hearts can desire is itself an immature idea more rooted in a validation of the adult then a commentary on the child.

    • Sarah Sutherland says:

      What you mean is Scott, we didn’t KNOW what teenagers got up to in most of human history as the concept of teenagers didn’t exist until relatively recently. We all know rape, unmarried pregnancy, abortion homosexuality etc were swept under the carpet and not talked about, or actively suppressed for hundreds of years. To say they didn’t happen at all because children always did what their parents told them is naive.

  5. Yeah, as a hetero practiced woman I can certainly sign on that sex is very differently for different people. Almost all the guys, if actually not all. Yes all they guys, I\ve had sex with have a good time during intercourse. And good time meaning get ejaculation before we stop. If sex was equal I wouldn`t have been writing this. Sex is far from equal, for most of women having sex with men. For most men it`s quick, you just touch them and they`re ready. I don`t know about the majority of women, but I know I`m certainly not ready after just a touch, and intercourse is definitley not super fun if that`s the only thing we do. It can actually be painful, just because of how low the womb is at different points in the woman cycle. So yeah, if sex was the same for everybody, would it really be that debated?

    • Hi Lover

      An old women friend shared with me what her lover said.
      He said:” I never leave a woman in bed,unsatisfied”.
      Is the sex over when the woman is unsatisfied? No of course not.

      • Theorema Egregium says:

        Hi! I know we had that discussion before, but why can’t we say that the sex is not over until BOTH parties are satisfied? Why can it only ever be one of them, either
        “Don’t look like she enjoyed, neither did I, to be honest, but who cares, I got it inside, now my score’s up and I’m a HERO”
        or
        “I am such a perfect lover, I give my girl scores of orgasms, and maybe have a little bit of fun myself once in a while too, but not too much because that’d mean I’m a patriarchal egotist, and I am modern and know my pleasure is supposed to come from EMPATHY.”

        I mean, why can’t it be “I have your back, you have mine, this way we both win”. Why is it so difficult to get such words out?

        • Hi Theorema

          You are right of course .

          Honest truth . I have never left a man in bed unsatisfied, in my whole life.
          (If he ejaculated without an orgasm I don’t know. It can be hard to tell).
          For me sex was never over until he was happy. Happy all through the whole happening not just the last seconds. :)

      • FlyingKal says:

        Hi Iben,
        You know, when I said the same thing, you replied that my GF probably had been faking it all along, and that most guys were too self-obsessed (and/or cluless) to tell the difference…
        :D :D

        • Hi FlyingKal

          Please show me that comment where I said your girlfriend faked all her orgasms.
          I can not remember I said that.
          The fact that she wanted lots of oral from you,indicates that she liked it.

          Please come up with the thread where I wrote she faked her orgasms while you gave her oral sex 20:1 times more than she gave you orgasms.

          Maybe you remember correctly, but I think not .

    • Theorema Egregium says:

      Sorry to burst your bubble here, but to think that for men sex is automatically great if they manage to ejaculate is plain WRONG. Sometimes you have to work hard to come at all, doing it just so it will be over, although that orgasm will be so flat that you wonder “was that it? I almost didn’t feel a thing” and anyway the tension of trying not to lose your erection destroys any fun there might have been. It’s pretty close to completely faking it (and I am told men DO sometimes fake it too, don’t forget that). In short, you can have really bad sex ending with an orgasm that is really bad too.

      I am afraid you are buying into the patriarchal narrative there, assuming that what counts for men is the feeling of achievement of putting your thing in her thing, and that anything beyond that is bonus, or even irrelevant. You are wrong if you think men have a good time just because you open your legs and if they think so too, they are wrong too and deluding themselves because they don’t know better.

      • Agree here. Just because I ejaculate and orgasm doesn’t mean the sex is good. I can ejaculate with my own hands, what makes it different when it with women?

        If I tell you lover, my most pleasurable and memorable sex is not when I’m having biggest orgasm, is in this instance with a woman, who keep telling me that my bodies look so hot and arousing to her. The feeling of being desired by a woman who I desire too, and intimacy, for me is million times better than orgasm in sex. The worst sex that can happen to me in my imagination is if the woman I sleep with doesn’t found me sexy and fake her entire pleasure.

        Again, I can have orgasm alone with my own hands.

  6. Hi Mark,

    Great article, thanks for writing. My only comment would be on the part about them having different sex drives. I think this is a myth. There is in fact relatively little known about sex drives – what we assume causes it (testosterone) doesn’t http://www.livescience.com/21114-testosterone-sex-drive-masturbation.html

    I would argue that the reason that women appear to want sex less, is not because they are biologically inclined not to, as there is very little evidence for this, but that women’s sexuality and sexual freedom has been systematically oppressed (and continues to be). You mention it yourself in the way that sex is framed from school onwards as something that girls are expected to say no to, and boys are expected to push for.

    • Thanks ever so much for your comment. I couldn’t believe that I was reading such nonsense on the GMP. Thanks also for sharing this study. I have always found the explanation that you have given far more plausible. It also explains the sharp dive in female ‘sex drive’ that one observes in cultures where a lot of shame is attached to female sexuality. If this was a hormone related issue then hormones of women would differ widely across different societies and that seriously be the most racist theory ever.

  7. Hank Vandenburgh says:

    2. The boundary issue. That’s a little too Ayn Rand for me. I like to keep things tacit, and most women I’ve met do too. For one thing, it allows for one party or another to back away, if they get the urge, saving face. Or for the sex to stop short of intercourse, cunnilingus, or fellatio. I know that everyone’s become more legalistic with the way people want to expand the definition of rape to include (unfairly, I think) ex post facto determinations that “rape” has occurred, but all this contracting doesn’t suit my sense of romance.

  8. Hank Vandenburgh says:

    PS 5. You CAN be too clitoris-focused.

    • Hi Hank
      You write:

      ✺”PS 5. You CAN be too clitoris-focused.”✺

      I agree and add you can be too focused on oral sex as well.

      • One would think. However, my girlfriend is an exception. I have been around the block, know a thing or two…and one I’ve learned is that too much clitoral stimulation can be painful and uncomfortable for a woman. Enter, stage right, my current girlfriend (and god, willing my future wife). She can’t get enough oral sex. She also loves direct and constant clitoral stimulation. I’ve stopped at times to ask “Are you sure this isn’t hurting?”. The point, I know what she likes because I asked. I wouldn’t just go in there and hammer her clit with my tongue like a boxer on a punching bag (sorry for the over-indulgent word play), without finding out if that’s what she enjoyed. The key to sexuality and redefining roles, is and always has been, open communication. Talk. Listen. Don’t judge. If there’s something you are uncomfortable doing, tell your mate. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, tell them as well. If things go “stale”, as someone put it, talk about that too. If you genuinely love someone, it should never get to the point where you are willing to risk their health or happiness. Not communicating does just that. You get to the point where you become adversarial instead of loving. Then the floodgates open, and all manner of bad things can happen. Talk. Listen. Don’t Judge…broken record, I know, but it’s critical.

    • wellokaythen says:

      Not only that, but it’s only in the past 10-20 years that anatomy textbooks reflect the recently established truth that the clitoris is much, much more than the little glans sticking out. 90% of it is inside the body. Even anatomy experts didn’t entirely get it right until recently….

  9. I’m a little surprised at some of the reactions here. I didn’t read this as a statement that ALL men have higher sex drives but rather IF a man has a higher sex drive. My perception of societal judgement is that women with high sex drives are sluts and men with higher sex drives are the things mentioned in the article.

    In regards to boundaries, my experience as a therapist says that keeping thing tacit is often the foundation of problems. When people articulate their boundaries there is a lot less room for confusion and error. I see too many people who rely on “mind reading”…feeling that the other person “should just know” or “I just assumed”.

    I would change #7 to say Great Relationships SHOULD Mean Great Sex. Unfortunately the social stigma and taboos about sex and sexuality prevent people from taking really strong relationship skills in other areas into their sex life. They feel free to talk about so many difficult subjects but quiver at the thought of actually discussing sex. Add to that #1, sex is more than biology. I continually see couples that are so focused on the physical part of sex that they have never entertained the idea of incorporating mental or emotional aspects of their relationships into their sex life.

  10. I like to think that your overall intent in this article is commendable, though as always there will plenty points of contention no matter what one says on the topic. Hence the comments.

    For all our human knowledge, it remains perplexing, sad at times, and amusing at times, how we struggle with sexuality and love. From my perspective, you a have a bit of bias in favor of the scientific method as way of knowing more about sexuality. Sure, I suppose there are some benefits, but frankly when it comes to all the wonderful intangibles, science simply will not find “solutions” for lack of a better word.

    I’m glad you mention the importance of romance, but I hope science never formalizes that…more can be learned from a wonderful exploration of cross-cultural literature on all aspects of romance/ sexuality, such as the writing of Anais Nin, to name only one.

  11. Mark Manson: Seriously, why is this so complicated?

    It’s so complicated because the data is actually way more ambiguous about the differences between men and women than you make it out to be.

    We’re having a very hard time separating how much of the difference is INNATE (nature) versus LEARNED (nurture – or the matrix of cultural expectations).

    As our culture’s attitude towards women has shifted over the past 150 years or so, so has the experience of women’s sexuality, which now looks a LOT more like men’s sexuality than it ever did before. And as we make further inroads here – both in research and in practical application (eg Nicole Daedone’s ONE TASTE workshops), the liberation of women’s sexuality is making them look even more like men than ever.

    That’s not to say women and men are identical. But just how dissimilar they are is really a very open question, and the apparent gap is narrowing all the time.

  12. Kat Dornian says:

    How do you think asexuality should be taught in all this? I’ve identified as an asexual for 6 solid years and was questioning before that for another 5 or so. I think you touch on some good points, especially 3 and 4, that are good messages for people who don’t have a sex drive or don’t feel sexual attraction.

    I think one challenge I faced in recognizing my “sexual orientation” was that I’d hear things about how much everyone thinks about sex, about how great sex makes you feel, about how hard it will be to resist after you go through puberty. It leaves someone like me feeling broken and weird (as if I wasn’t weird enough already in high school).

    Not that any of what you’ve said was talked about in sex ed class, but my mom was very open and honest about her own experiences and, of course, the glut of hyperbolized teenage gossip about sex… Even here though, you fail to mention asexuality and that it’s normal not to feel sexual attraction to other people, and sometimes not to feel any sexual drive at all. Like you said in point 4, it doesn’t make anyone weird or socially unacceptable. But even reading through this, I felt that same thing that I felt when those 15+ years ago: weird and broken. Admittedly, I’m still wondering how I ended up the way I am and do feel uncomfortable even though I have a loving partner who accepts me just for me and am surrounded by good friends who are really respectful and sensitive. I have no idea what others feel and I read articles that my friends post on Facebook, like this, to try to figure it all out. What can we do for others like me in sex ed class, to make them feel just as normal as their friends who, just like them, feel awkward about what’s happening to them?

  13. Draconian says:

    “We now know that homosexuality is likely related to pre-natal hormones and may possibly even have some sort of genetic basis.”

    Perhaps, but sexuality can also be fluid. Take prison inmates for example. Male inmates will frequently form same-sex romantic relationships while in prison, and then resume hetero relationships after leaving prison.

  14. Great article. But please, just saying, the clitoris is not the place where the big O happens, it’s the G spot. (for every woman I know in person at least)

    • not me – a blanket statement like “is not the place where the big O happens” is not helpful in this discussion. from what I’ve read, it seems that many women don’t even have a g-spot.

    • Most women I know and myself have the clitoris as the (only) place to reach the O.
      And most women only develop their g-spot enough to reach an orgasm after their 30s.

  15. mystic_eye_cda says:

    With respect, you’d get flamed less if you learned the difference between sex and gender. You can’t take hormones to change your gender, gender is a social construct which is independent from your physical sex. Gender, like sexual orientation, is also spectrum and fluid, many cultures have always had more than two genders. Physical sex is also not binary.

    Your male privilege, and that of the medical society at large, shows through in your reasoning for why homosexuality is ‘natural’. Prenatal hormones and genes have been shown to influence male sexuality only, not female – they may eventually find such a link, but at this point they have not unless there’s new evidence that I’ve missed (Footnotes would be helpful)

    Also, point 5 would be taken care of if people would just communicate and learn what they like. You don’t need to know what an area is called to know you/your partner likes to be touched there. Not to mention the fact that the clitoris wasn’t even properly mapped until 1998, it isn’t just its glans and hood.

  16. Christina says:

    “Having the conversation no one else is having” … except on every page of the internet. Everyone in society believes the lie that sex is just like hugs and should have no restrictions on it beyond consent. It’s understandable that the 60′s rebelled against the puritanism they came from – but isn’t it about time we grew up?

    You have it right – sex is beautiful, fun, and can be done for many, many reasons. But the puritans were right too – sex is powerful and sacred and shouldn’t be engaged with just about anyone. To forget one or the other is wrong, and we’ve forgotten the power in sex by making it into an amusement activity like skiing – thrilling and only life-changing if you hit a tree or get an STD.

    Sex is MORE than this – and because it is more it CANNOT be truly enjoyed in this cavalier fashion. It MATTERS who you have sex with, biologically, emotionally, socially and spiritually. THAT is what should be taught in sex ed classes. That to say “no” to sex outside of a life-long committed relationship is to say “yes” to a greater, deeper and far more beautiful reality. It is saying “yes” to yourself – refusing to lie to yourself as is done in a non-committed relationship (body says “I want you to be the other parent to my child” and your mind says “what’s your name again?”)

    For when you truly looks sight of the sacredness and beauty of sex and only focus on the pleasure – you are soon left without even that. How many in our generation would rather watch TV than have sex? Why? because in focusing on the pleasure apart from it’s true purpose we have forgotten what it really is.

  17. Ironic thing is, this advice is still good even for people who DO choose to wait until marriage. Respect for one’s partner, understanding of your respective sexualities and control over fertility and disease transmission are just as important for the married couple (in some cases more) as for the one-night swinger.

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  19. FrugalCat says:

    I wish my mid 80′s, suburban middle-class American sex ed included how to put a condom on an uncircumsised penis. Did not see one until age 19, most of my friends were also in the dark. One semester overseas was a challenge at first.

  20. I think this post is fantastic, and well written. The whole #6 disclaimer and follow up commentary is so dead on. Why do people seem to have such a hard time with the differences of libido and expression between men and women? I’ve always been a proponent of gender equality, believing that so much of our gender differences are culturally created and magnified; I think these unnatural polarities result in a lot of unnecessary pain. I’ve also been aware throughout my adult life that my sex drive is lower than the average man; because of that, I haven’t stood much of a chance against all the ramped-up Romeos ready to do what it takes to ‘tang-O. If I wanted to justify my loserhood, I might insist that I was just above the cultural influence that turns most young men into dogs, but I know better. I would love nothing more than for women to have the same drive as men. But no, I’m in agreement with the author when he says “this should be obvious to anyone who’s ever looked at naked people.” I think people want to ignore this fact of nature because it doesn’t fit into their arguments. Concerning the feminists the author mentions, I think they don’t want to believe that men are under greater pressure of their libido because it might lend credence to the validity of some of the things they find offensive, and consider to be sexist. In a primordial Freudian sense, I think this may be the very thing that these feminists encounter when they get pushback from otherwise equal-minded men. It’s as if by assuming that their sex drive is equal to men, they can claim that they are just under better control of their own desires than men, and that men just need to back down. It’s another “men=bad/women=good” message that’s just wrong. I wish it weren’t. I really do.

  21. John Yohalem says:

    On the whole an excellent article. I’m delighted you want to punch out whoever said sex only comes in two flavors and you are just one of them ALWAYS or something is wrong with you. BUT:

    “Sexual intentions and desires should be stated clearly from the get-go by both parties. And I don’t just mean, “I want to have sex with you,” but every step of the way. “I’m attracted to you, I want to go out with you,” “I want to go home with you,” and so on. Kids should be taught that there’s nothing shameful about saying “yes” or “no” and that they should not be ashamed nor shame someone else for saying either. This is regardless of gender, orientation or reason. All personal desires are valid just as all rejections of personal desires by another are valid. Both should be respected. It’s as simple as that.”

    No it’s not.
    For one thing, when we start out, we have no idea what sex we want and are desperately on guard about it. We have social imperatives and expectations around us and we aren’t sure (unless we’re raised by Hasidim or something similar) what those are. We are flailing wildly and then suddenly our hormones explode and all our friends and relatives are telling us different things about it (and they have their own agendas) and you want to top it off with something out of “Brave New World.” Come here, little girl, I want to perform a social experiment.
    We don’t know what we want when we feel attracted to another person. Do we want to be pushed to the next level? Lured to the next level? Remain on the level we’re on? Enjoy a physical sensation but not, you know, go all the way, oh ooops I guess we did but I really prefer my own gender, oh ooops.

    It is all far more confusing and classes in school will not lessen this, especially since such classes assume we are all at one chronological development level AND WE’RE NOT.

    So I don’t think what you said in this instance is very helpful or to the point. I think you should meditate on this and rewrite it.

    And boys (and men) have this THING that STICKS OUT and makes us uncomfortable until we think of ways to assuage that. Can’t be helped. Happens all the time. That must be addressed. Don’t overwhelm them with guilt for it, don’t giggle and shift around in your seat. This is going to be ON THEIR MINDS for a couple of years till they figure it out. It’s not something women think about because they don’t have to. But they (even more insidiously) are capable of having major consequences if they “experiment,” consequences boys do not have to worry about (although they should). This is a matter I never see addressed. Every primitive society addresses it, but not our advanced one. Why not?

  22. It would be fantastic to see something on this blog about the research that has shown how circumcision impacts sex.

    http://www.circumcision.org/studies.htm

  23. Minor correction: States do not require sex education is different than States require no sex education. The 2nd one is much scarier.

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