Let this letter be a promise to you that I will do my best to be the man I want to be for you.
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Hello, my future wife.
Whether you are reading this before you meet me, or stumble upon it after, I want you to know a few things.
The reason I am writing this today is because I can’t stop thinking about you, and I can’t stop myself from imagining how happy we will be. Let this letter be a promise to you that I will do my best to be the man I want to be for you.
I may not yet know all of the difficulties that come with a lifetime commitment, but I have enough relationship experience to know what I want and how I picture my life with the person I will commit to: you.
Those around me are a continuous source of education and inspiration on how I want our relationship to be. So here and today, I vow to try my best to do the following:
I promise to do my best to make you beam daily, so count on many surprises. Your smile will be my priority. I get weak knees when anybody smiles, so just imagine the effort I will make to be the source of yours.
I promise I will always look at you with the same adoration as I did the moment I realized I loved you.
I promise to try to ignite the same sparkle in your eyes I see when you’re surprised, inspired, motivated or when you are about to lean in to kiss me.
I promise to hold your hand when we’re 80 years old with the same liveliness that I did when I crossed that line to hold yours for the first time. I vow never to let the excitement of dating me die down; I will surprise you with the location, the reason or the activity itself.
I promise to keep you guessing where we’re going next. I promise to do my best always to interest you. I will keep reinventing myself, gaining new hobbies, new knowledge and new interests to keep you — and myself — entertained.
I promise to have new stories to share with you, and maybe I’ll retell the best ones again if you insist. Our friendship will continue to grow over the years.
I vow to challenge you to challenge yourself for the better; to make you think differently. I promise to try to feed off of your illuminating energy that will inspire me to do the same with myself. I will do my best to ensure that being bored never crosses your mind.
Even in grief and darkness, I promise to show you the different shades of the dark, and to help you find the tiny rays of light that are always there if you seek them. After all, there’s always worse than worst and better than best; everything is relative.
I promise to kiss you throughout our life together, with the same passion I had the first time I felt my lips on yours. When we kiss, I want it to slow down time — just you and me engulfed in our feelings.
I promise to play the games you like to play.
I promise to do my best to remain physically attractive for you, and I will do my best to be healthy in order to keep up with our children and grandchildren; someone has got to teach them Muay Thai kickboxing. I’ll train you, too; I want you to know how to fight and defend yourself, just don’t use it against me.
I promise to help you to be healthy, both physically and mentally. I will cook and clean for us. Expect the best breakfast: traditional Armenian tomato and pepper omelets, followed by fruit salad with… well, I can’t give all the secrets out.
I promise to strive to be a role model for our children. I want both you and them to see me as a source of motivation. I want to inspire them in the same way that my father inspires me.
I promise to do my best to love your family as you love them and to be by their side as much as I am by yours.
I promise to always listen to you when you simply just want to be heard; when you want someone to vent to about something or when you want advice.
I will listen to you especially when you don’t feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with anybody else, and to the things you try to tell me when you’re not even speaking. I promise to always listen.
During our life together, I promise to make sure that you feel as though you are the center of the household — I know you will be — and I will always try to show my appreciation for you because of that. Being the man of the house is nothing without a woman.
I promise never to let my guard down in taking care of us. I know you won’t be one to be satisfied with the bare minimum.
I promise to do everything that I can for you without taking away from your independence physically, intellectually or emotionally.
I promise to create family traditions and to make sure that your legacy lives forever through our children.
I promise to encapsulate the moment when I realize that I am in the most magnetic, amorous and erotic love with you, not to let that feeling dissipate to the best of my ability and to relive it with you constantly, always.
Sincerely, Your Future Husband
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This post originally appeared at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission.
ZAREH ZURABYAN Born and raised in Armenia, became an adult in Boston. The two cultures intertwined together have produced Zareh, a young man passionate to make a difference in this world through positive thoughts, and view points that make the readers think and question their values, morals, and the society. First a son, brother, uncle, nephew and a friend – then a Scientist in BioEnergy, Muay Thai kick-boxer, political activist, ‘philosopher’, and an entrepreneur destined to invoke new thoughts, ideas, and perspectives in you regarding life.
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Many people do forget that love in it TRUE sense is like a river… it MUST have two sides to flow. You dont demand love in return when you love someone… naturally love is reciprocated and if not we dont have a loving relationship.
IF ITS A LOVE RELATIONSHIP LOVE MUST BE GIVEN AND RETURN…
Your effort in your future marriage should be towards meeting the (reasonable) needs of your spouse and accepting them for who they are instead of some template of who YOU think they should be, what they should like etc. based on your gender stereotypes of what all women must want in a relationship. This blueprint is very premature and presumptuous! Maybe your future wife might want to take the lead and she might not want to stick around with one man until she’s eighty years old.
This is a lovely fantasy. And it may work for the first year or three, but as the relationship matures, you’ll interact differently with one another. You can’t just make plans and insert wife; lots of schoolgirls do this, with husband ideals. Mature adults realize that everyone is different, every relationship is different. Maybe the woman you fall in love with won’t like tomato and pepper omelets and fruit salad. Or won’t want to guess where you’re going next. You may not be able to make her beam daily. And all of that will be perfectly okay, because you’ll forge… Read more »
If I ever met someone who said “I’ve had my wedding planned out since I was a kid” and was actually serious about it, I would see that as a huge red flag. That would tell me that she isn’t interested in *marriage* so much as in having a huge party where the entire focus is on her, and I’m just the last, completely interchangeable, piece she needed to complete the puzzle.
You simply cannot “make” someone happy……..and trying too hard to do just that is a fool’s game. It will only lead to resentment, anger and hate.
Where is “An Open Letter to my Future Husband: How I Plan to Make you Happy Every day of Your Life ” 1 person can not do all the giving while the other takes, and doesn’t give. No relationship will ever survive unless each person gives 100%…..
People, just stop already. He never said he will do all the giving, there are lots of open letters to future husbands over the internet and shit.
You guys totally know how to be pricks. Just appreciate the fucking post and stop complaining, wtf.
I say all of this with love. <3