Are There Good Guys in Porn? An Interview With Porn Star James Deen

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Emily Heist Moss is a New Englander in love with Chicago, where she works at a tech start-up. She's a serious reader and a semi-pro TV buff. She writes about gender, media, and politics at her blog, Rosie Says. (Follow her: @rosiesaysblog, find Rosie Says on Facebook). 

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  2. pambaby says:

    Look, pornography is not supposed to be reflective of real life. It’s supposed to be reflective of our fantasies. The purpose of pornography is not to inform us about how to live our lives. It is not a “how-to” manual on safe and sane bdsm practice. It’s supposed to turn us on. That is its only purpose. It is supposed to create an illusion.

    One of the problems is that people think of BDSM as an umbrella term, not understanding that there are nuances and differences between the fetishes, and differences from person to person. Some might only be turned on by bondage. Some masochists might only need physical discomfort. For other masochists, there is an emotional element to it. And this is where a true power differential is necessary in a FICTION.

    Some of the things that turn people on I find to be absolutely disgusting. I simply don’t watch those things. So long as everything is completely consensual behind the scenes, then it’s not for me to judge. But what I think is happening with a lot of BDSM and fetish type erotica and pornography is that people ARE passing a judgement on it. They either believe that these things are depicting and encouraging rape or they believe they are symptomatic of misogyny. I think they are wrong. I think that there is nothing wrong with having these types of fantasies. I think it is completely normal for some people. Everyone is different. Everyone has their own particular thing that they find hot. For some people, BDSM, consensual or nonconsensual, is what turns them on. And what’s the harm, so long as they know the difference between fantasy and reality? So long as they do not harm anyone else?

    And I do not get all this talk about this kinky stuff being so misogynistic. Where is the outrage over Femdom? Where is the deeper, socio-politcal meaning when it is a man who is helplessly aroused by licking a woman’s shoe or being spanked? When he is shown on film being used as a ponyboy? Is there any outcry about the underlying message of male inferiority? No. Because people spend less time analyzing and judging men and their sexual fantasies.

    Women, however, can never catch a break. We are first made to feel that it is completely unnatural for us to have sexual feelings at all. We are chastised for centuries for showing the slightest interest. Then back in the 1970s, some research was done and it was found that women did indeed have sexual desires and fantasies. And one of the most common fantasy was forced-sex or some variation of BDSM. And from then on, this has been studied and picked apart and judged. Most of the judgement comes from other women, who read way the hell too much into sexual turn-ons. I really don’t believe it’s all that big a deal. It should not be made into a political statement, no more than male fantasies are. So long as real life is based on respect and equality, make believe doesn’t need to be.

  3. I happened upon another article like this one and left a comment similar to this. I remembered this article and thought that I’ll drop my opinion/view here as well.

    I always laugh when I see articles like this about James Deen. “Good guy pornstar.” I think you females cherry pick what scenes of his you watch. Probably he’s toned down a bit recently to line up with this image, but how I first got to know him was through seeing him in some films, and noticing how much more violent than the other guys he tended to be. Of course I had to find out who he was so I could see him dish out this service to other girls. There are a few male actors like that, and they’re generally demonized for doing the exact same things he does, but because he’s cute & innocent looking somehow those scenes of his seem to be an illusion that women don’t see haha. No doubt he has some charm and connection to go along with it, but alot of times I’ve seen him just straight choke or seriously slap the shit our of a girl like a maniac while other guys were fucking her, just for the fun of it.

    “James Deen the woman beater”, as one director joked in a gangbang video. Much truth is said in jest. It summarized all that I saw of him up to then. That’s how I got to know him, “I have to see some more videos of him beating the fuck out of these girls haha.” It’s why I like him, and other guys like dirty harry, Brandon Iron, Nacho (the latin psycho lol!) and the facilitators like Khan Tusion, Max,etc. Needless to say I was awfully surprised at seeing articles like this about Mr. Deen. Lmao. Like I said, he’s probably toned it down a bit to cater to this image you all have somehow contrived to paint of him, but I was left wondering if you were takling about the same person I knew and loved lol.

  4. (Part 2)

    Tbh, I know what’s right and wrong. It’s obvious that in many of the videos the girls get pretty banged up and abused. They’re basically like crash test dummies that the guys can do whatever the f*ck they want with for a period of time. The truth is many get much worse treatment that prostitutes. If most had other alternatives they saw as viable, or didn’t suffer trauma in their own lives they wouldn’t be doing that. I think about a recent video I saw with Nacho Vidal and Kara Sweet. I could imagine her face was swollen sore as fuck after that. They so often take a LITERAL beating, like a damn punching bag lol! Tbh I ENJOY WATCHING IT. But what I don’t like is DISHONESTY. Just be honest and say, “look, this is fucked up and wrong, but we enjoy it, the viewers do, and she needs the money & is fucked in the head & is willing to do it, so lets go.”

    It’s why I like Brandon Iron. He’s brutally honest like that. Even Khan Tusion. Mr. Iron in an interview explained it like this, “I tell the girls, look, you’re going to have the WORST 15 MINUTES OF YOUR LIFE, but I’m going to pay you for it.” He then proceeds to beat and choke and roughly abuse their innards as much as he can without maiming them permanently. When I see articles about the “good guys of porn” and shit like that, I think back to Mr. Iron again. As he says, “porn is a scummy business.” It ultimately is about what pleasures males, as males are sexual gluttons who make up the majority of the porn market. They have a more ever present, and devilish desire than women, which has been known since the beginning of time, contrary to all the feminist bullshit that’s being thrown about these days. And what do they want to see? After looking at porn for a long time, you want to see shit more and more extreme. You go to anal(I remember when I first started watching, that was totally uninteresting & wasn’t even arousing), then to dp, gangbangs, then double anal, then straight facial abuse and Khan Tusion,etc. That’s the market. So why do the girls go along with things as they get more and more extreme? Because they need the money, and are just fucked in the head. Its why there’s a constant stream of beautiful girls willing to have anything DONE TO THEM (go watch some of Max’s or Nacho’s videos & tell me the women aren’t passive receivers lol), as they become more and more extreme. So many are just reduced to fleshy bags to be internally and externally beaten about now.

    Ms. Katja Kassin is going to college and got out of porn for a while, saying she had many bad experiences, it was a bad chapter, blah blah blah. She’s now back in, and is she saying those same things now? No. Most won’t speak against what feeds them, especially if they don’t have many other options. There are always the badasses like Mr. Iron who are exceptions to the rule. Well I’m not dependant on the biz, so I can say it’s scummy and wrong. It’s only when you honestly acknowledge a problem, that there’s any hope of solving it. It’s fucked up, but fuck me I enjoy it. Me and many others.

    (Off to setup my own offBeatr campaign to bring back my man Steve French to f*ck up another girl even worse than he did to Alex Devine in the famous “Donkey Punch” series. Directed by Khan Tusion, produced by Max Hardcore. Featuring Nacho Vidal. That would be some video.)
    “Porn is a scummy business.”

    With honesty, hopefully some girls won’t have a false illusion about what porn is, & can avoid being part of this future shoot & having to come running to everyone after, telling of how terrible it was.

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