Better Dating Through Mind Control

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About Harris O'Malley

Harris O'Malley provides geek dating advice at his blog Paging Dr. NerdLove, as well as writing the occasional guest review for Spill.com and appearing on the podcast The League of Extremely Ordinary Gentlemen. He can be found dispensing snark and advice on Facebook and Twitter (@DrNerdLove.)

Dr. NerdLove is not really a doctor.

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  1. “…the realization that I had a choice…”

    Yes, this pretty much sums it up for myself as well. Which, as you also stated, isn’t to suggest that everything fell into place. But the opportunity and experience and decision-making made a world of a difference as far as not allowing “things” to get out of control.

    Breathe.

    Loved the article.

  2. Cognitive behavior therapy techniques, meditation, yoga, self compassion. Worked for me. Helps move people from passive and victim to assertive and self loving. Doesn’t mean one’s world does a 180 in terms of “and then I got a new job making a million bucks and 5 new lovers” but it may mean steps in the direction of happiness and wholeness.
    Takes a while, takes commitment, doesn’t mean no pain in life. But moving that locus of control is a positive step.

  3. Hell yeah. Advice that doesn’t comprise of “Guys it’s all in your heads. Women are the ones that have it hard now man up and suck it up.”.

    There’s good stuff going on here.

  4. succeeding in dating is about not being a pussy.

    meditate on that.

  5. Meaning trumps data, every time, and you get to make up your own meaning.

    Rock on, Harris!

  6. Speaking of getting a song stuck in your head…try this song. Music therapists use Eine Kleinenacht Musik by Mozart to elicit positive moods and reduce stress. If you know it, hum it to yourself and see if you smile.

    If makes you smile, hum to your date or someone else and try to get it stuck in their head.

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