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About Keagan Pearson

Keagan Pearson is a Christian, husband, father, writer and entrepreneur. He is the founder of FatherhoodFactor.com and LaunchBlot Media and the proud consumer of reasonably priced coffee. You can connect with him socially via Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and Email.

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  1. Keagan,

    “Let’s face it, there is valid evidence to suggest that women are more complicated emotionally (driven by radically different hormone levels), and we certainly know that sexual intimacy for women is more of a marathon than it is a sprint. In a recent WebMD article, Edward O. Laumann, PhD, a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago, reminds us that “sexual desire in women is extremely sensitive to environment and context.” It is more about the build and less about the moment.”

    While sexuality in women is more complex than men, new research (See Daniel Bergner, “What Women Want?”) clearly demonstrate the commonly held view(s), as reflected from the WebMD article, is suspect. In fact, it even debatable whether emotional intimacy is the ultimate goal of sex in either men or women.

    Yes, it is about the environment and context. And monogamy is one environment that does not serve female sexuality well based on new research.

    • Thanks for your insight Jules…

      I’d imagine that nearly every aspect of human interaction is debatable to some extent or another. The danger that we all face in this conversation is leaning too forcefully in one direction or another. There are both physical and emotional drivers behind intimacy for men and women, but those realities are often minimized or at the very least, trivialized for men. Being that the piece is geared towards the motivations of men and how those can be wildly misconstrued, my intent is more to encourage deeper conversation between couples and less to diagnose female sexuality.

      As far as monogamy not being conducive to male or female intimacy, I’d reply only with the admission that my only experience and the bulk of my interaction with people on this topic, is centered around monogamous relationships. To tread too far from my experience and expertise would be a dangerous move for me. When I overreach I always end up with a pulled muscle!

      However, I’m always good with learning more so I’ll be sure to take a look at the research you mentioned!

      Thanks again!

  2. @Keagan..

    “There are both physical and emotional drivers behind intimacy for men and women, but those realities are often minimized or at the very least, trivialized for men.”

    Yes, we can agree. I think trivialized and dismissed are more like it.

    Very very few women would even admit that many men relate sex with emotional intimacy. Often they (many women) feel we men want sex just for the sake of sex.

    Thanks.

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