This comment was by Mark on the post “Should Men Be Chivalrous Anymore” by Dale Thomas Vaughn.
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I agree. I’m in the first 2 modern versions of chivalry. I open and hold doors for both genders equally. It’s called being civil to one another. I also begin with coming from a place of vulnerability and graciousness. It’s called good behavior and wanting social connection. If I am rebuffed or taken advantage of for that then I switch my tactic to strength as I do not want social connection more than the superficial with you for doing that.
The last one is what many people think of being civil but it’s not. It’s basic quid pro quo. It is basically power and control and a sense of entitlement. I’m nice to you and you give me back something I want. You can’t do it so I will for you but now you owe me. Many people today still come from that underlying perspective and think that’s what masculinity is all about.
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