This Comment of the Day was by -Dj- on the post “Vulnerable Men: A Look at the Softer Side“.
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….But then I’m more of a hard man.
This seems more something that would appeal more to the gay guys, then the straight ones. I often wonder why people, especially women, think we need to “find our femininity” in order to be whole. We don’t, I don’t. I’m absolutely comfortable, content, and confident in my own masculinity. My feminine side sleeps next to me each night.
Not to argue that no man could be, but most men? Nope. Sure we can learn to be more expressive, learn to address our emotions better, but we are learning that as men, not female knock-offs. We are just different and its not something we need, and in fact, can be harmful to us…like trying to teach a cat to bark. Sensuality can be expresses as a function of masculinity.
See, we’ve been here before and women are proof as we tried that with our attempt to make women more manly back in the 70s and 80s with women not wearing bras, not shaving their legs, getting married in tuxedos rather than the “Oppressive white dress”. We did it even with office dress with the female version of the suit and tie.
That was because they had no model beyond the male model. They got there though. Won’t see women doing any of that today as they’ve learned how to express their strong side as feminine, not masculine. They have their own womanly ways of doing men stuff…and I’d tend to think that guys enjoy that more than masculine women.
Likewise, I believe guys will try this, but it will feel funny after a while (like having a slice of bologna in each shoe). From there we will go right back to being guys just as women did, understanding that we do not have to be those guys in order to express sensuality.
Great ice breaker, and a great way to open the issue up, cut the initial path to greater intimacy, but also the best way I can explain how it will end up. Hope it makes sense.
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