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About Snowden Wright

Snowden Wright is a writer living in New York City. More of his work can be found on his blog.

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  1. “I will not apologize for having one hell of a good time. Because that’s the point of college: not only to figure out who you want to be as an adult, but also to spend four years being the person you don’t want to be.”

    That, my friend, is the truest part of your entire piece. I was the biggest asshole on Earth in college. I was constantly drunk or stoned. I always had a girlfriend, but I was constantly cheating on her with multiple people. Sometimes in the same night. I was a liar, a manipulator and was only interested in hanging out with my friends and finding the next party.

    And while I’m glad I’m not still that guy, I will forever regard my college years as just about the best time in my life.

    The best part, for me, was that I didn’t have to join a fraternity and pay dues for friendship. We did stupid shit while we were drunk because we were friends and it was fun, not because some idiot “brothers” were telling us we had to. I’ll never quite understand the draw of fraternities.

  2. Well, Snowden, I’m so glad that you had a good time. That is, after all, all that matters, isn’t it? You give fraternity men (and men in general) a bad name. I am at a loss to understand why your work is being published on the Good Man Project’s site and am disappointed that it was. I hope my brief reality check didn’t ruin your good time, you can go back to having fun now…

    • Albert Barnes says:

      Ruin his good time? It already happened you fucking moron. The concept of past tense must be beyond your community college grasp.

  3. I fail to find any smidgen of interest in tales of your salad days, but I have to thank you for reminding me why the whole fraternity thing never appealed to me. Some of us were able to enjoy our youth without institutionalized idiocy and vomit fetishism. I don’t consider you an asshole, just horribly foolish and weak.

    • Wow, such commentary on 18 year olds. And, you at age 18 must have had the time of your life, I imagine, splitting atoms, philosophizing, solving world hunger… I always love when somebody criticizes something they have never experienced. I am 46 and to this day, my best friends are those that I met in my fraternity enjoying the institutionalized idiocy. By the way, all of my friends who were “foolish and weak” are all very prominent, successful and strong adults.

    • Albert Barnes says:

      joe was too busy dressing in black and listening to NIN to actually have fun. just another whiny bitch GDI full of hate.

  4. Kappa Omega Kappa: Kok!
    See, its witty, because it sounds like a word that means penis! Such sly humor!

  5. Your xperience sounds like mine. The respected members didn’t harass the pledges – the weakest and least liked members were always the hazing leaders, the hardest drinkers, and the worst students.

  6. Great piece, Snowden. Those who didn’t join a fraternity just don’t understand. They like to think they do, though.

    • Actually, I was in a fraternity, so that makes me even more qualified to reply. Sorry, Jon. Was I an angel? Far from it. I did a lot of dumb things in my youth that I can acknowledge as immature, insensitive and unenlighted, rather than refusing to change/apologize for them and ruin the “fun.” And what exactly are non-Greeks unable to understand from this essay? Let’s stop the elitist rationalization for boorish, unacceptable behavior and be grown-up men.

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  7. Adam Pendleton says:

    Snowden, your coping mechanisms need work. Looking back on your previous indiscretions as if they have some sort of intrinsic learning value should not absolve you of a guilty feeling. The fact is that you were a terrible person for four years. That time could have easily been spent doing something worthwhile, while still having loads of fun. That is, unless your only sense of fun is found in baseless egotism and being a consummate degenerate.

    Actually, I’ll take that down a step. You didn’t participate in the hazing of others. Ostensibly, anyway.

    You ARE, however, seeming to be advocating the continued practice of hazing. For that, you are more than just a degenerate, you are also a complete moron and a cesspool of ethical failure.

    Hazing is nothing more than institutionalized abuse that is wholly harmful and completely unjustifiable. It runs the gamut of physical, emotional, sexual, and (arguably) intellectual abuse. I’m all for the appropriate use of alcohol, but forcing it on people and making them drink to dangerous levels is just terrible. Some of the other acts, such as the milk drinking, or the beatings, are more obvious acts of physical abuse.

    The forced homoeroticism, sexual assault, and occasional rape is also a serious crime, and talking about it in the manner you do only reinforces the idea that it’s an expected part of fraternity life. The “shared trauma” does not create any sort of a special bond, as you yourself admit. Hazing is merely a despicable, self perpetuating dominance ritual, and one that has been taken to an unnecessary extreme. The fact that you describe it as some sort of right of passage into manhood only troubles me more. Has undergoing hazing and subjugation to a fraternity really become that much of an ideal in male culture?

    I sincerely recommend you reconsider your view of your past. It’s irresponsible and unhealthy to believe that there was actually a point to any of what you experienced.

  8. Sid Almasi says:

    Between the start of the fall term and October 7, fifteen students were hospitalized for drinking at Dartmouth: the chief of Hanover police has said that “It’s going to take someone dying,” he said yesterday. “I’m afraid that’s going to be the only thing that will wake some of them up.”

    In fact, such things have happened at many Greek-dominated schools: one of the more recent was the death of Carson Starkey, who was 18, and died of alcohol poisoning during rush at Cal Poly. His “brothers” are spending their young adulthoods in jail, where they belong.

    I hope you enjoyed pissing yourself and eating vomit, you useless tool.

    • The only time I got myself in trouble drinking was with vodka at an off campus party at Dartmouth for a youth mentoring program. Lets get rid of youth mentoring programs while we’re at it.

      Hell, you could even make the argument that partying at fraternities is safer since they serve exclusively beer and its harder to do damage that way.

      I hope you enjoy scurrying around the internet taking cracks at ivy league schools, wall street, and anything with a pretentious label. Go write a poem about it, you hypocritically elitist tool.

      PA, Wright. It was the most fun I’d never want to have again.

      • Sid didn’t say anything against being Greek. He said that drinking yourself into a stupor and forcing other people to do so is completely unacceptable. As a Greek, I’m ashamed to see how proud Snowden is for this article. Seriously. Way to perpetuate the Animal House Delta House stereotype that all the rest of us are trying to rise above.

    • Albert Barnes says:

      sid, go fetch a crying towel, you whiny bitch. it’s clear you were dumped on more than one occasion for a fraternity man.

  9. Okay, Snowden admits what he did was completely stupid, but he’s looking at it from the perspective of how he felt about it in those days. Obviously, he had fun in those days, so why should he regret something he felt was fun? I doubt he’d do it all over again if given the choice, but he himself thought it was fun and I don’t condemn him for even thinking that today.

    Personally, what he did was extremely stupid and I’d probably never shake a stick in his direction had I known him in his college days, but that’s his life, and who am I to define happiness for someone who looks back on those days with a sense of whimsy?

    Cut the higher-than-thou attitudes and try to see it from the perspective of a guy who should have no regrets for having fun in his college days. It might not be my type of fun, might not be your type of fun, but it was fun for him.

  10. the guy’s name is snowden. how can anyone expect him NOT to be a d-bag.

  11. Wth, Good Men Project? says:

    The problem I have with this article is that its not all innocent, harmless fun. What about the whole thing with calling a woman a ‘horseface he wouldn’t push out of bed if she ate hay’ or the laughing at the thought of exploiting a homeless man?

    Fratboy culture is not benign. Recently there were cases where a dinner society fraternal organization at Yale marched pledges through women’s dorm areas chanting, “No means yes, yes means anal.” They might’ve had fun doing it…. but does it make it right? Hell no.

    ‘Because I had fun doing’ is not a moral argument, nor an ethical one. Its not any sort of justification.

  12. Albert what is with you?? You have nothing of substance to contribute yet you troll this article for days? Very strange… very sociopath. Go ahead and reply with something witty and original like calling me a bitch. I’ll respect you more then.

  13. I am a female student at Dartmouth College. I think this article was really illuminating of the perspective of a male student from my school. I don’t know a lot of details about what guys go through during hazing – mostly just grizzly rumors – but I know that a lot of people are strongly affected by it, and go through it for the sake of gaining brotherhood. Many guys I know describe pledge term as simultaneously the best and worst few months of their lives, something that was special, but never something they would like to go through again. I respect your perspective on your fond memories of college years – how they allowed you time to be youthful and carefree, yet also how some things taught you what kind of person NOT to be. Thank you for sharing your point of view 5 years down the road, because I think I can see more clearly now how a lot of the negative things that go on behind closed fraternity doors can actually have a positive impact on my male peers in the long run.

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