We often blame our partners for the stress we experience in relationships. Bryan Reeves says that stress is really about our own stuff.
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If your intimate partner stresses you out, consider that maybe they’re actually just teaching you how to love more fully. Bryan explains more about love and “expanding your stress-free box” in this short video.
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And vice versa, the woman is saying “I will only love you, as long as you accommodate me and all my demands for your attention and behavior.”
In my experience, no matter how mindful and expanded your box is, the demand for attention will expand even faster.
Not that we shouldn’t strive to do our best, but there really is no such thing as unconditional love.
I believe in unconditional love. However, I don’t believe in staying in a relationship with someone who makes me responsible for the state of their well-being. That is ultimately uninteresting and unsatisfying, and I can still love them unconditionally as I’m leaving.
Good answer, thank you! 🙂
Bryan, Thanks for taking your time to create this video. I can tell by watching that you care people and want everyone to be happy. I higher capacity for love 🙂 I think one really needs to be careful. You brought up the term abusive and I think that really hits the nail on the head. If your intimate partner (or anyone) makes you feel like you are walking on eggshells all the time. stressed, afraid, hitting you. It is my experience that you have to go the other way. It is not a partners job to fix someone, nor… Read more »
Yes, Stephen, it’s important to be really disciplined about certain boundaries, particularly involving abuse. Thanks for sharing your thoughts – and you’re right, I do care deeply. 🙂