Snake Bloomstrand shows you how to spot and how to handle energy suckers.
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We’ve all encountered them — individuals endowed with the ability to suck all the air out of a room. Self absorbed and socially unconscious, emotional vampires tend to frequent (and often convene) compulsory work meetings and social gatherings, drawn like a moth to a flame by a captive audience. It’s a very rare office; working team, construction crew, or assembly larger than a dozen people that doesn’t contain at least one emotional vampire in the mix.
Against our better judgment we endure their bite, cursing our co-dependency or simply too strategic to make a scene we bite our tongues then suffer terrible pangs of hindsight and critical self-examination. “Why did I even show up? I knew this would happen.” All too often we feed the beast with our silence and indulge behavior we know will sting like hell later.
Emotional vampires have walked the earth from the beginning of time and cultures across the globe have accommodated their peculiar appetites. Studies have found human sacrifice originated as an ancient social remedy.
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A small percentage turn out to be malicious. Emotional Vampires can be insecure, narcissistic, self centered, or generously loving and suspiciously sincere. A kinder, gentler way to put it is — “These special people remain a vulnerable (social) step behind and are enthusiastically creative in their attempts to catch up.
“Easy to spot, one need only listen for their call – “Me! Me!……Pay attention to ME!”
The worst among them have mistakenly been granted some measure of authority, which they primarily leverage to focus the spotlight on themselves. The blood thirst must be horrific to drive them to such desperate measures. Just imagine not being able to see your own reflection in a mirror? There’s a good chance you’d leave the house with egg on your face or a smear of lipstick across your cheek, but I’m not talking about personal grooming, I’m talking Social Hygiene.
Emotional vampires have walked the earth from the beginning of time and cultures across the globe have accommodated their peculiar appetites. Studies have found human sacrifice originated as an ancient social remedy. Poor social hygiene was tolerated up to a point then it was left in the hands of an elder. A wise elder would approach “The offender” and invite them to walk up the mountain. Once at the summit the elder would whisper, “Seriously! The Gods asked for you by name. Jump into the volcano!”
Human sacrifice may have been primitive and harsh but in the long run it was probably a benevolent act for all concerned, and a spectacular display of wisdom. Social progress has been made over centuries. We now possess sophisticated social systems that eliminate the need for wisdom, benevolence or pitching a tent near a volcano. We have evolved. Still there’s comfort in being armed and disciplined enough not to act.
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Photo by Snake
Well things just spiralled into crazy by the end of this article.
“All too often we feed the beast with our silence and indulge behavior we know will sting later…” A very timely article…every point was well said…..! After my surgeries, I still kowtowed to the needs of some very needy friends (even though I was secretly in pain and still recuperating…)…long story short, the more I helped them, the more demanding they became….finally, after a violent outburst witnessed by several of us, I was forced to cut off all ties abruptly….My son is still friends with their son and he invited him to his birthday party at our house…of course, due… Read more »