This comment by Martha on the post Screaming From The Friendzone
Totally disagree with Maria. Every man I’ve ever fallen in love with and had a relationship with has been my friend first. I personally need that unpressured atmosphere that is friendship to really get to know a guy. That’s not to say that every man I’ve been friends with is someone I’d be attracted to but definitely some of them are. This whole ” friendship zone” thing is so bullshit. I absolutely loathe when guys look so devastated when I refer to them as a friend. It’s a GOOD thing! And it’s downright insulting to think that some guys think that as long as they are nice to us and “gentlemanly” that we will eventually reward them with sex. WTF? What the hell kind of freaky mathematical equation is that?? It’s completely insane.
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Is Friendship not the basis of any lasting love relationship, and as such, shouldn’t it be the main ingredient in love?
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