With so many articles saying what NOT to do, its quite refreshing to read one that says what you SHOULD do.
Guys are just as insecure, if not more so, than women. Especially attractive women… So when you get rejected, people sometimes resort to offense (As the best defense) and rationalisation. Helping people understand all the non-personal reasons that they might get rejected or turned down due to society rather than due to them is thus very helpful. I’m not looking to meet people nowadays (married) but always interested in reading on this topic. I used to be extremely bad at this, due to my own issues, lack of maturity, self-esteem etc which I now obviously regret. Hindsight is good like that.
I can’t help but feel that courtship should equally be a part of sex education as the act itself. It may stop a lot of antisocial behavior and the entitlement issues that seem very pervasive in society. Not to mention PUAs etc (Which I maintain for the most part are a desperate means to an ends from desperate but otherwise good people who don’t understand the evil that it does to others. Surely there can’t be THAT many genuine sociopaths in the world… None of which makes it right).
Another reader, Amy, says:
Yes, yes bring creepy is not good. Yet a lot of creepy behavior from women is not labeled as such.
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One reader appreciates this writer helping people understand non-personal reasons why they might get rejected or turned down. Another thinks something is missing.