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About Steven LaFond

Steven LaFond is a fiction writer and essayist that lives in Arlington, Massachusetts with his wife, Jessie and their pets Ari and Goblin. His work has appeared in apt, Derby Shorts, fiveonfive, WebSphere Insights and Worcester Magazine. He received his MFA from the Bennington Writing Seminars.

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  1. christopher hubbard says:

    sorry mr. lafond, but “white” privilege is a word without any meaning but full of an agenda. it’s a word guilty white liberals (i assume like you, and like i once was) use to assuage their guilt about their own identity. no good comes of it sir. the sooner you can eradicate it, and it’s patronizing, condescending attitude towards non-whites (usually black people) and treat them like full citizens with equal rights and responsibilities the sooner we’ll be able to finally have that “honest conversation” about race that too many say they want to have but never do. one way conversations aren’t conversations or dialogue but monologue and usually are predicated not on good faith but “i’m a tell you how it is”.

    • This article actively demonstrates how lafond can move in and out of a world where Trayvon couldn’t. He can wear the hoodie. Trayvon couldn’t. He can carry the knife. Trayvon couldn’t. And he can even have a lower-class, troubled past. Trayvon (though he wanted to be a scientist) couldn’t. Erasing LaFond and Martin’s experience so that you can define the perimeters of an “honest conversation” isn’t fair in light of the evidence of this particular honest conversation. I encourage you to take a look at sociology and ethnic studies critical theory. You can find it online (Wikipedia “ethnic studies” to start) or in textbooks. They give excellent academic definitions of white privilege. It’s just as well studied as the leaves on trees. You may rethink your racist imitation of “Black speech.” (as we know, all Black people think and speak alike. I’m sure.)

      • christopher hubbard says:

        i graduated from law school ma’am. i am more familiar with “critical” race theory than are you. “white” privilege is bunk. plain and simple. for this simple reason; because it falsely understands the word privilege, so that when it attempts to attach the word white to it, it gets it doubly wrong.

        (1) privilege: a special right, exemption, or immunity granted to a person or class of persons, an exception to a duty. to use the trayvon example, a young white male (i’m a white male myself ftr) could walk down the street in a hoodie. #1 so what? i wear hoodies when the weather is appropriate. i don’t wear my pants halfway down my behind. #2 this isn’t a privilege (nor is moving in and out of this or that world) . . . it’s a choice. i don’t sucker punch people in their face and bloody/break their nose. my guess is mr. lafond doesn’t either. and i don’t start fights that lead to me bashing their heads into the ground.

        if an unknown stranger was following or watching me i would call 911 myself or run home if i was so close to it. this isn’t a privilege ma’am, it’s common sense. people like you either didn’t watch the trial at all or simply omit the very bad decisions that trayvon made as well that led to his own death. gz isn’t morally innocent here, but watching and following somebody isn’t illegal, a crime or unethical. when gz starts to walk back to his truck nothing had happened. nobody had gotten hurt. if tm hadn’t decided to start the fight (legally known as the aggressor) he would still be alive today and gz’s life wouldn’t be a living hell.

        what mr. la fond and you and others seem to miss is that skin color isn’t controlling in this situation or any other, behavior is. tm chose to do what he did and that mistake cost him his life. he didn’t deserve to die but he made the wrong choice (2 of them actually) and most important, if you and mr. lafond and i and others want to limit the number of future tm’s of the world the best place to start is not by attempting to make white folks guilty for a wrong they did not (that i certainly did not) commit and go on and on and on about a privilege that does not exist in order to maintain the stigma for america’s original sin on white people instead of the focus on black people, what goes on in black homes (where values and choices are learned and the difference between good choices and bad choices practiced) and how this is made exponentially difficult when almost 3/4 black american households have no dad in the home to help out mom in instilling those values and in which the life outcomes per education levels, job and income and career prospects, criminal behavior, drug addiction and abuse and babies themselves having babies out of wedlock and the vicious cycle itself continues are all too foreseeable.

        it doesn’t have to continue to be this way (http://city-journal.org/html/15_3_black_family.html). and changing this HAS NOTHING TO DO with white kids/guys in hoodies and mr. lafond’s indulgences in focusing on the superfluous instead of the all too common.

  2. Donald Dysart says:

    Thank you for your honesty and obvious commitment to make a difference. It’s one of those subjects that we can be overwhelmed by, and stick to what we know very easily. I like how you hint at the complexities of those family relationships and the challenges of dealing with Kin who seem like they are from another planet.

    Keep sharing, that’s where the power is.

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