Where Art Thou, Divine Masculine?

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About Lion Goodman

Lion Goodman is the co-founder of Luminary Leadership Institute (http://www.luminaryleadership.com), an accelerated initiatory program for leaders of businesses and organizations. With his partner, Carista Luminare, Ph.D., he developed a program to help couples transform old patterns of insecurity and trauma into a secure and passionate relationship: Confused About Love (http://www.confusedaboutlove.com). Lion is a co-founder of The Tribe of Men, an initiatory program in Northern California, and he served as the Director of Men’s Programs for The Shift Network, where he produced the Ultimate Men’s Summit, attended by 20,000 people around the world. He is the author of three books: Creating On Purpose (with Anodea Judith, Ph.D.), Transform Your Beliefs, and Menlightenment: A Book for Awakening Men. He resides in the San Francisco Bay Area, but considers himself to be a world citizen.


  1. I heard that Japanese Samauri warriors were also coached in flower arranging so they would not lose touch with the beauty in the world.

    • Samurai were also supported by untold numbers of serfs- it is easy to play with swords and chrysanthemums when someone else is knee deep in human excrement raising your food….

  2. These words gave me hope & made me smile. Thank you.

  3. Our sense of reason, always at the ready to draw distinctions and point at inequities, however much we believe in it, is at a loss when it comes to describing the reality of how messy life and evolution can be.
    The state of human consciousness during the time of the Samurai expressed itself plainly in how intense was the struggle to survive most people on Earth dealt with at the time. The Samurai’s embrace of principle, no matter how messy or emblematic of inequality, embodied an evolutionary light relative to the darkness around them.
    They died… but the principles they expressed lived on, and are more prevalent for more people now than ever before.
    Principles, I believe, move through us like an ocean, passing through time via the people that embody them.
    Life makes sense only up to a point, and much of what happens is senseless…
    Thus, like a sprout slowly, arduously, breaking through a layer of asphalt, working its’ way into the sunlight, ideas evolve, moving through many bodies that live and die under the crushing weight of ignorance, until slowly working their way into the zeitgeist.
    Will it ever look perfect. I doubt it. But we do make a stab at it, and the principles we’ve come to glean relating to both the divine masculine and feminine are now passing through us. Thanks for the article Lion, and pointing out that it’s now our time to embody the highest thought we can reach in both, and express them on Earth… An event unique in all creation..

  4. Angus Martin says:

    Good article, I enjoyed the subject and much of it resonated with me.
    There is one ‘inaccuracy’ or ‘problem’ in it though, which I must point out.

    You write:
    “Our divine Magicians are generous creators such as Deepak Chopra, who weaves others’ wisdom into popular culture, and Bono, the Irish musician in U2 whose social activism has brought international acclaim.”

    I don’t know enough about Deepak Chopra to comment on him, but as for Bono, I can assure you that he is not a good example of a divine magician (at least not anymore) for the simple fact that he is working with Monsanto, an organization run by men who fit your description for the un-evolved, evil wizard type: “In it’s negative, egoic, or boyish manifestation, it may appear as a know-it-all, using knowledge to oppress, manipulate or brutalize others.”

    Philanthropy does not a wise king make: It is merely a necessary tool for keeping the reins of power.

  5. Or the masculine belongs naturally to the male, and the feminine belongs naturally to the female. It’s so funny to think how this very basic concept would be easily mocked in this day and age of blurred lines.

  6. Wells stated piece, thanks Lion. It is nice to see so many fragments on these important concepts all assembled in one place

  7. Mama Kalee says:

    Great article, I agree with Angus Martin on that one point though… I was thinking the same thing when I read the part about Bono. I love much of U2′s music and grew up adoring them as a band, and Bono as a beautiful, powerful man as I was growing into my woman skin. He may have at one point been truly concerned about the good of humanity, but at this point in space and time he appears to have devolved into an egomaniac who can be bought by any entity, no matter how evil that entity’s interests may be. There is nothing divinely masculine about being a larger than life SHILL. What a shame, there are plenty more examples of divine good in masculine form in pop culture though… If you are looking for a rock star embodiment of that how about Neil Young? Or David Byrne?

    • Mama Kalee and Angus Martin: Thank you for pointing out the shadow side of Bono. I was not up-to-date on his corporate shilling, especially the despised Monsanto. Please feel free to suggest other great Magicians that can me mentioned in future articles.

  8. Sorry to be a stick in the mud, but I find talk on the divine nature of the masculine / feminine to be one fish short of a tuna fish sandwich.

  9. I appreciate that you point out that each gender has their owns Virtues, both equally powerful and necessary. I believe that when a man can embrace and embody his “given” masculine virtues, he’ll be more receptive to the benefits of the feminine virtues.
    Thanks for the work that you do to promote healthy and happy relationships between men and women!

  10. Brilliant, Lion! Thank you for such a thought provoking article and illustrations of the mature masculine.

  11. Benjamin G. says:

    This is a very well written piece, but I had to stop with the inclusion of John F. Kennedy as some kind of model for positive male leadership. When did that occur exactly? When he wasn’t too busy cheating on his wife countless times with interns, movie stars and or whoever happened to trip his trigger? Any societal gains that came under his administration were because of the pressure it was under due to the Civil Rights Movement. I’m not saying this as a personal critique Mr. Goodman, but we as a society have a habit of lumping politicians together with the likes of the Ella Baker’s or Cesar Chavez’s of the world. It’s revisionist history and it’s wrong.

  12. Benjamin: thank you, as well, for pointing out Kennedy’s flaws. With few exception, politicians will be expressing many Boy Psychology qualities. It is said that “Anyone who wants to be voted into office should be immediately disqualified from politics.” I’m sure you and all readers could come up with better examples, as you suggested, and all are welcomed. In our conversations and dialogue as citizens, we need to hold up examples, discuss them vigorously, and examine them for flaws, knowing all the while that they are flawed because they are human. Even the Greek and Roman Gods were flawed, which enabled mere humans to accept their own errors and mistakes more readily.

  13. bill wilson says:

    Lion, you really pick up the scattered threads of this idea and weave a closer look into the wounded masculine. I especially like that you point out the usefulness in separating maleness and femaleness from the masculine / feminine notions.

    This whole subject can push buttons rather quickly because the connotations, beliefs and definitions are all blurred together in a person’s mind unless separate columns are established, like a spread-sheet, so we can talk about one concept without triggering defensiveness about the other.

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