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About Jackie Summers

Jackie Summers is an author and entrepreneur. His blog F*cking in Brooklyn chronicles his quest to become a person worthy of love. His company, Jack From Brooklyn, Inc. houses his creative and entrepreneurial enterprises. Follow him on Twitter @jackfrombkln and friend him on Facebook


  1. This is really powerful, thank you for sharing your story! Our physical appearance is so transient, but can feel so essential to who we are. I admire your defiant attitude, and I hope I can emulate it if and when life throws physical similar changes my way.

  2. Julie Gillis says:

    A stunning piece. Thanks.

  3. First, bald men are sexy. Super sexy.

    Second, I know how it feels to be a woman with clumps of hair falling out and I so identify with your ex and losing her long blonde strands. Almost made me cry. I’m blessed that I got all mine back.

    And so lovely, the different ways of sexually regarding one another at different phases. Sex is so beautiful and expressive.

    Nice work, again, Jackie.

    • Joanna, thank you. I’ve adjusted to the bald head, but still miss my eyebrows. I’m heartened to hear your hair’s grown back in; I hear my ex’s has as well. Funny how we mark the events of our loves and lives by days on a calendar. Every day deserves celebration.


  4. Wonderful piece! It’s incredibly brave of you share this insecurity so openly. It’s funny how something that has no real purpose tends to define us so much–and how much money and effort we’re willing to spend on it–from extensions to rogaine to dye to wigs to expensive haircuts, to stressing, etc… I had a bad experience with birth control once and for at least a month, I was pulling out handfuls of my hair every time I showered and noticing a lot of hair on my pillow. Luckily, everything went back to normal after I stopped using that pill, but there were lots of moments where I really panicked. The thought of losing your hair is scary.

    “I wake, shower, towel myself dry, and notice a single, black, curly hair protruding awkwardly from my chest. I’m momentarily giddy; it’s ridiculous. A 40-year-old man naked in his bathroom, giggling over a single chest-hair. A rose in the desert; clearly it wants brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and cousins. I think to myself: presently, he and I are alone.”


    • Aya, you’d be amazed how useful hair is. With no eyebrows or eyelashes, sweat and dust get into my eyes easily. With no nose-hair, I’m more subject to germs and colds. And keeping your head warm? You don’t miss the sheep ’til they’re out of the barn! In all seriousness, thank you for your kind words, I’m trying to live with courage and honesty. Some days, it’s easier than others. Every day is a blessing.


  5. i lost my hair when going through my divorce, my hair my long thick luxurious black hair was so thin you could see my scalp. I was MORTIFIED I rocked a baseball cap, my brother asked if I still liked guys!! then one day I let it go, the stress the I dont know how I will get through today and slowly but surely it came back!! Not as thick Not as luxurious but its back!!!! Memories ahhh the memories

    Once again I sit here reading an eloquent post of yours written so heartfelt and almost sexy!!!!

    You are beautiful bald!!!!!

  6. I’m sorry it’s from a dude, but I have to tell you: you’re the most sexy and masculine guy on GMP! :)
    (sorry Tom! ;) )
    No, I’m not gay :D but I can appreciate male beauty.

    Besides that, I admire your intelligence, courage, integrity and honesty. You’re a hell of a guy.
    And your writing rocks! I have to admit I’m a bit envious… :D

  7. Wow. What an amazing piece. Great way to start my day. I was teary-eyed half way through but smirking by the end. Thanks for sharing.

  8. jack oh jack…. never a dull moment in your writing..definitely a n afternoon treat. And boy can i relate. But bald is beautiful, at least on me it is. but i sometimes miss my hair! LOL! thanks again.

  9. My sister lost her hair when she turned 21 with alopecia. For a few weeks, after it had all fallen out and she’d shaved the remainder, about a half inch grew. Everyone got excited, and it fell back out. I’ve read on forums about it. The body attacks the hair after its initial growth phase. Some reported that super doses of lysine helped their hair grow back. Might be worth looking into for anyone suffering from the same.

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