We all have that someone special in our lives, have we been treating that person the way they deserve?
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It’s coming up to Valentine’s Day and the TV, news, shops and nearly everywhere else are starting to wheel out the hearts and roses, but it’s still too close to New Year for me. So pondering New Year and Valentine’s Day how have you treated that special someone up until now? Have you made them feel special? Have you been a friend through thick and thin? Have you been a lover like no other? Maybe it’s time to look at the past through the lens of Valentine’s Day to see how you should treat that special someone in the future.
How have you made that special someone feel like they have received that title, “special?” Have you gone shopping with them to improve their looks and boost the way they feel about themselves? Have you encouraged them to travel or experience new things? Treated them to a dinner or something equally as nice, maybe bought them something you know they’ll love? It doesn’t take much to make someone feel special, a kind word here, a pat on the back there or to just reach out and tell them how proud you are of the things you have done. This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come yet, so go out of your way for them and make them see just how special they are.
It doesn’t take much to make a friend feel special, a word of encouragement here.
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How have you been a friend to this special someone, do they feel as though they know you will always be besides them? No matter how down they are you’ll be there, showing them the sunlight on cloudy days. No matter how happy they are you will remember this event for them and always have those stories on hand. Are you the voice that says one more hamstring curl, the whisper that says go ahead and have that cake, the chuckle that says I can’t believe we are about to do this? Can you be the voice they listen to, that encourages them to find their own voice? It doesn’t take much to make a friend feel special, a word of encouragement here, a memory there and an honest appraisal that they are important and they matter. This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come yet, so go out of your way and make sure they know just how much of a friend you are.
How have you been a lover to this special someone, do they feel like you are the cornerstone of their life? Have you shown them how much you love them in thought, word and deed every single day? Have you been that pillar of strength in times of need? Have you let them cry on your shoulder when life is just plain been unfair? Have you shown that special someone that life without them is dull and grey, that the day is never truly bright until they arrive? Can you be the person they trust unconditionally, can you be the person they know they can count on no matter what, can you be the person they love most and love them back because they are worthy of that love? This person is special to you; they will be in your life for a while to come yet, so go out of your way and show them, thought, words and deeds, just how special this love is.
If you don’t consider yourself worthy of love you will reject the love that is given to you.
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Because you are this special person, you are the most important person in your life. If you don’t consider yourself special why would the world consider you special? How can you treat another as special if you don’t consider them equally as special as you, that puts them on a pedestal and you beneath them when you should be equals. If you can’t be your own best friend how can you be a friend to another? If that inner voice in your head is a critic how can you not help but criticize others rather than empathize with them? If you can’t love yourself how is someone else supposed to love you? If you don’t consider yourself worthy of love you will reject the love that is given to you.
You will always be that special someone in your life, you were there when you were born, you will be there until you die, you know your greatest achievements and your deepest fears. How are you treating this special someone? How are you treating yourself? Treat yourself as someone special because you will never know anyone else like you know yourself. Don’t neglect yourself, lower yourself, put yourself down, because When you treat yourself as special it shines for the rest of the world to see.
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*A minstrel was a medieval European bard who performed songs whose lyrics told stories of distant places or of existing or imaginary historical events. Although minstrels created their own tales, often they would memorize and embellish the works of others. The Modern Minstrel observes the world around him and shares it with us as lyrical story. This series was inspired by Luke Davis, whose eye for story and ear for lyrical prose are featured here.
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