Here’s how to be the man she’s always dreamed of.
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Over the years, I have heard and read a lot about how to attract a woman. There is so much information on the internet that one will end up getting confused.
Let’s go back to common sense.
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The funny thing about these lists is that the writers forget that attraction is an emotional response and not a logical one. That is why many times we see ourselves getting attracted to people without knowing why.
Yeah, it has happened to me a countless number of times in the past. I have been crazily attracted to a girl and not having any reason I can point to as being behind the attraction. That is the power of attraction. It defies human logic.
Want to know how to be irresistible to women? Let’s go back to common sense.
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1. Get some confidence. Be the exception. Stop playing the ‘Mr. Nice Guy’ script your sister gave you. That script will get you locked up perpetually in ‘friend zone island.’ Is that where you want to be?
Having the confidence to look her in the eye and tease her is attractive because it is not normal. Be different. Doing this makes her see you instinctively as a strong man who deserves to be her mate.
2. Be tall. Relax, I know your height is something you can’t do anything about, but it is the truth.
Women are naturally attracted to a man they can look up to. I understand your pain (if you’re short) because I am short too. Here is the secret. Even if you are not tall physically, be so tall character-wise that she’ll have no choice but to “Look UP” to you.
3. Be attractive. Groom yourself, dress fine and get rid of that odor (if you have any).
4. Work on your income. It is painful but true. People always want to have security, and money gives a sense of security.
5. Look fit. You don’t need to take some steroids and look all jacked, but you need to add a little muscle to all those flesh.
6. Be busy. Most comfortable people are busy people. However, if you are among those who inherited a fortune and you don’t need to work hard, still keep yourself busy with a hobby. Calling a girl 17 times in an hour will get her bored. Going to see her six times a day isn’t sexy, it is desperate.
I don’t mean you should call her only twice a week and visit once in three weeks, no. Get yourself engaged with something that will take your mind off her from time to time. When you do, telling her that you just thought of her will become the hugest compliment she’s gotten at that very hour.
7. Be unpredictable. Be your own man. Make your rules and keep them. Who says you have to kiss on the first date? You could decide not to kiss at all until you marry. Or, you could give her a peck the first time you say hello.
Just be unpredictable. Keep her guessing, anticipating and longing for more. Being predictable takes the excitement out of the relationship. Do you know the trait women find to be the most attractive in a guy? Mystery! Be that mysterious man.
8. Be Decisive. “Honey, have you made a decision yet?” “Maybe, I am not sure.”
Note that these traits don’t guarantee you will have a successful relationship.
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Don’t be that guy. Don’t tell her to wear whatever she feels like, tell her you want her to wear the blue gown and a yellow belt. Tell her you want to take her to Burger King, and stop asking her where she wants to go for lunch.
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Note that these traits don’t guarantee you will have a successful relationship. They are just traits that will make you attractive to women. What happens next after that is up to you guys.
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Hey, don’t be too hard on Toby guys. He’s really just giving you the cold hard truth. Like John said, you don’t see a whole lot (or any) women disagreeing with him. And even if you did, when they start with something along the lines of “I want a gentle ,vulnerable man who respects me as an equal” or something like that. You can answer “Oh, you mean like Christian Grey?”. As for the ‘Man Box’, here’s a news flash! Every time you live your life trying to please or attract someone, you’re putting yourself ‘in a box’. Live your… Read more »
Have, if we learned anything in the last year or so, it’s if you’re handsome AND rich, you can even have a ‘Red Room of Pain’ and women will get on line for a turn!
Cut Toby a break. If you’ve dated much at all, you know women like rich men. And you look taller standing on a thick wallet. Maybe for the rest of us, we’re going to have to be more practical. Miss America ain’t looking for us. Let’s just drop the fantasies that Hollywood has parroted to us. Your “beautiful” friend/co-worker, finds your jerk, more financially successful, friend/co-worker, whose parents spent a lot of money on his teeth when he was 14, much more attractive than she does you. How else is she going to get to complain in a few years… Read more »
Is this article supposed to be a parody of something? “Get some confidence”?? Really? Where can I get some? Does it come in bottles or cans?
I had a somewhat cruder comment along the lines of he should sexually satisfy her also. His list might as well be complete as far as the man box is concerned. There are two things though that interest me.
1. There are a lot of women who’ve show little reservation commenting, but have chosen to remain silent.
2. No one is disagreeing with him.
Women do want what they want and they have a right to. It does though seem that the PUAs are correct. Where does that leave us?
I suspect that trying to shoehorn anyone into a well defined box that assumes that certain things are true all of the time is bound to fall apart almost as often as it proves true. How many times have we seen a woman who is an absolute “stunner” on the arm of a guy who looks like Quasimodo while everyone shakes their head and asks, “What the HELL does she see in him?” Or the stereotypical “stud muffin” walking in with a “plain-Jane” who looks like the ‘before’ photo in a weight loss or fitness ad? The Man Box (and… Read more »
I think in the “Quasimodo” situation, people just assume that he must be rich. It does speak to the value system. Women are valued for looks and men aren’t. Men are valued for financial success and women aren’t. The “plain Jane” situation doesn’t fit into the narrative so people scratch their heads and wonder what the attraction is because they still see one person being able to “date out of their league”.
“I think in the ‘Quasimodo’ situation , people just assume he must be rich.”
Or ‘hung’.
So.. is this supposed to revolutionary? It’s funny, because all of this (looks, money, height, confidence et cetra ad nauseum) are the exact things that those “evil misogynistic PUAs” are telling men that women are going for, and the women on this site swear that just isn’t so!
And yet, here we are…
So, Tony, should the rest of us short, average-looking, financially challenged guys just go drown ourselves now or should we wander off into the bush and wait for the wild animals to end our worthless existences for us?? I sincerely hope you wrote this in a spirit of parody because this is a laughably ridiculous piece for a site dedicated to helping guys to be good men who are not constrained by the “Man Box” that society still wants us to stand in. This article hits every item that makes the sides, top and bottom of the “Man Box” they… Read more »