Jordan Gray says that in order to truly love, it must be unconditional.
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When Should You Love Your Woman?
Always.
Love and accept her in all of her forms.
Love her when she’s ten pounds heavier, or ten pounds lighter.
Love her when she’s on her period, and when she’s off of her period.
Love her when she is done up immaculately. Love her when you wake up next to her after a night of partying.
Love her when she is calm. Love her when she is sobbing.
Love her when her nail polish is chipped. Love her when her eyeliner is smudged. Love her when she hasn’t worn make up in weeks.
Love her when she’s in love with you. Love her when she is mad at you.
Love her every minute of every day.
Love her even when you hate her.
Love her when she’s wrong. Love her when she’s right.
Love her when she is being stubborn.
Love her when you catch glimpses of her seeming like a perfect human being.
Love her when she is outlandishly far from flawless.
Love her through her tears.
Love her through your tears.
Love her when she’s grumpy.
Love her when you feel like pushing her away.
Love her when you are telling her something that you swore no one would ever find out about.
Love her when she doesn’t feel deserving of your love.
Love her before you leave the bed.
Love her throughout her work day.
Love her with your eye contact across the table.
Love her when you hold her hand.
How Should You Love Your Woman?
Fiercely.
With abandon.
Love her so much that it burns in the bottom of your gut.
Love her with so much strength that it makes her feel like someone has pointed a flashlight into the dark corners of her soul, and just when she thought that you were going to run, you said “Is that all you got? I love you even more now.”
Love it all. Don’t make your attraction conditional.
Accept and love her as a human entirely.
Always.
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Side note: As a straight guy, writing from my perspective means writing about women, but this list is applicable to all lovers of any gender and orientation.
Jordan Gray is the relationship coach for entrepreneurs. You can see more of his writing at JordanGrayConsulting.com
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I can’t believe so many comments, showing that people don’t understand unconditional love. LOL. It doesn’t mean just sit back and take everything she does. It means, that even after you’ve had a fight or she’s been at her worst, you still love her. That said, if you truly love someone you don’t need to be reminded to do all of those things listed. You simply see “her”, the woman you love, when you look over and she doesn’t have makeup on. You don’t look over and say to yourself, “she looks terrible but I love her anyway”. You simply… Read more »
Sorry, but I can’t agree with this at all. This is Foolish and basically making her an Object on a Pedestal.
Never have I seen something like THIS written about Loving a Man- because it Won’t and Hasn’t. When it comes to Love, Men and Women =/= Equals and it’s one aspect GMP fails at.
I’ve had such a traumatic relationship once, that there mere notion of “unconditional” love makes me shudder. When you’re forced to overpower your girlfriend, to prevent her from inflicting more physical torture to herself “to make you see her way”; when you have to drag her to the hospital because she can’t be bothered (it’s clearly not her main concern); when you’re glared at by hospital staff because they don’t buy the self inflicted story; when you feel your own world crumble from underneath you because the person you love is willing to destroy herself just to tighten the leash… Read more »
Unconditional love is a fallacy.
Humans are selfish.
If unconditional love were a thing then relationships wouldn’t break down and fail.
There are always conditions to anyones love.
If any of those conditions is violated then the love is diminished or lost. Even if only briefly depending on the type and severity of the violation.
I love this article. I have it bookmarked and I will be coming back here often to re-read it. Very inspiring. “How should you love your woman? Fiercely. With abandon.” Very powerful.
Unconditional love (with the possible exception of parent to child) does not exist. And moreover, it should not exist. There are always conditions in which one stops loving another, and I don’t think they should be ignored or pushed under the rug. And not to mention the fact that this entire article reads like women (in this case) are “owed” love from a man no matter how they act. They are most emphatically not. Look, I get that this is supposed to be a feel-good fluff piece, but the idea that a man (again, in this case) must love a… Read more »
Bill – a writing like this wouldn’t apply to a partner with a personality disorder. However, it’s a recipie for a beautiful long-term relationship for someone with whom you love and are committed to. Also, there are plenty of writings for women that extoll the virtues of unconditional love of one’s partners, especially in the Christian community. Additionally, being raised in an a society that encourages women to be people pleaders, It’s one of the reasons women get trapped in abusive relationships, and struggle to leave. This isn’t to say men don’t fall victim to the same dynamics.
Well said J.J. I agree.
Completely agree J.J.
Bobby: I couldn’t disagree more with you, Bill. Or should I say, Dr. Tara? — I’ve been accused of a lot of things in my life, but being Dr. Tara Palmatier isn’t one of them…up until now. And IDGAF if you disagree with me more, or less – but for the sake of the peanut gallery, ie the young and the restless listening along, how about you put some meat on those critical bones, and provide us with your cogent critique of what I just said. Or do you just prefer to stick with the ad hominem attacks…in this case,… Read more »
Bill, your original comment has been removed because you insulted the author of this article.
I’m adding this note so that people who visit the comments now understand that there was a comment, originally, but that it was removed.
Technically it’s not wrong. It just needs an additional paragraph where it explains that loving and accepting somebody doesnt exclude fights,honesty and critique once in a while.
If you have kids you know the feeling of being extremely angry at somebody without losing any love for them. Thats unconditional love not “Oh you killed our dog, shaved my head in my sleep and stole my credit card? I’m not going to be angry because i am supposed to love you anyway!”
I couldn’t disagree more with you, Bill. Or should I say, Dr. Tara? Nice sales pitch but I’m not biting.
Yes…because she’ll certainly have the same attitude towards you…