To all the men who have fears about expressing your love to another human publicly: Watch this.
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Michael Wright from the U.K. recently wrote to us: “I created this video as a gift for my partner this year, with the intention of being a better man and doing things differently. I hope sharing it with The Good Men Project audience will promote change and courage for men to express their love for their women. The video also shows that you can be honest with your partners and if you are forgiven you can have a much more intimate relationship.”
We asked him the following questions:
Do you think that men are less likely to publicly than women are? If so, why do you think that is?
I think men are less likely to do so, maybe because it’s frowned upon for not being masculine enough. My experience of creating this video and publicly displaying my love for my partner has been challenging and I had a fear of being judged by alpha men, however the feedback I have had from nearly all of my male friends has been positive. I guess a lot of us want to express our love but may have some fears around doing it publicly.
Are you a songwriter? If not, was it hard to write the song?
I had no previous experience of songwriting, I actually wrote the whole song in the studio. It took me about 3 hours, it’s was really challenging to get everything I wanted to say into a song.
What was your partner’s reaction?
Me and my partner watched it on Xmas morning, she had no idea. We both cried after watching it and held each other for a while, I believe they were happy tears and a sense of achievement for making it to Xmas after all we had been through.
Would you like to see more men talk openly about being in long-term committed partnerships?
It would be great to see more of that. I think it’s something which should be honoured and celebrated.
Is there anything else you would like to share about the video, the relationship, or society’s expectations of men?
I hope my video helps promote honesty and forgiveness in relationships. I could never experience real intimacy with my partner until I was completely honest with her about everything I had done. In a world where men are responsible for many terrible things that occur, my aim was to do something different and be a man of integrity and honesty.
Enjoy the video!
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I got the intent. Good show. Bad news? Video is private so can’t get the full extent. I was really looking forward to hearing from a non experienced songwriter.
“Do you think that men are less likely to publicly than women are? If so, why do you think that is? ”
I think you accidentally a word here.