Guys. Trying too hard to impress on a first date is a date killer. Here’s how to be yourself, without a bullhorn.
“I’m funny.”
“I’m smart.”
“I make a lot of money.”
“I got abs. You want to see?”
Really?
Really. Some guys actually say these things on first dates. And they wonder why they fail.
Fellas, if you have to say you are something, the chances are you’re probably not. I never heard anyone who’s genuinely funny, smart, wealthy, physically fit or anything noteworthy actually claim to be so. It’s always those fools who are trying too hard and feel like they have to declare it, and they do, with very disappointing results.
Even if you are legitimately hilarious, brilliant, swimming in trust fund money and ripped like an Italian male model, it doesn’t matter. No quality woman will go for you when you have to say that you’re _____.
She will know you are funny when she cries and gasps for air while laughing so hard at your comments. She will know you are smart when you intelligently explain why stars are “shooting” as you two lie down beneath the night sky looking heavenward. She will know you are financially secured when you invite her over to your place –your own place, with no family or roommates living with you– as you cook for her. She will know you are fit when you bring her in for a firm squeeze as you hug her good night.
Personally, my best foot forward is humor. If I can’t make the date laugh, then that’s it. There’s probably nothing else going for me with that particular female of interest. I never tell her I’m funny. Instead, I show her I am, or at least I try. She’d better laugh or I’d better move on.
Originally appeared at justcallher.com
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