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The following are the best parts of the conversation regarding a DailyMail story about a football fan who witnessed a female fan sexting another man—right in front of her boyfriend. As a result of this conversation, Adiba Nelson wrote “If My Boyfriend Cheats, Please Don’t Tell Me.”
At first, the conversation focuses on what the reaction would be if the genders were reversed.
Doug Ziegler: I heard about this on the radio this morning, and the backlash from many females (and some guys too) was 1) that it was none of his business 2) he could have put the woman’s in harm’s way because he has no idea if the man was abusive. But the question that popped into my head was this: if the genders were reversed, would the outcry be the same, or would be it be more along the lines of “That lady was helping that woman out by pointing out a potential cheater.” Thoughts?
Just curious about something. What the HELL difference does it make if the woman was pregnant or not? The story didn’t mention her race, height, weight, occupation, religious denomination, hair color, clothing, etc. Didn’t even mention the team she was rooting for. So why do we care that she was pregnant?
(Don’t assume that a woman who “looks pregnant” really is. A lot of women can tell you stories about that mistaken assumption.)
Interesting point! I could think of several reasons. 1) A pregnant woman is understood to be more vulnerable than a non-pregnant one, so making her spouse angry at her is judged to be much more serious. Causing her spouse to possibly leave her at this point making him a deadbeat betraying his absolutely dependent partner and the innocent child is completely indefensible. 2) Once a woman is pregnant her man loses any rights or dignity of his own. He only exists for the sake of the wellbeing of the child, and his own needs don’t matter any more. While the… Read more »
Alexander Yards is dead wrong. The partner does not always know. Not even deep down. Ben there, been blind sided. Some people are really, really good liars.
This series – Inside the Conversation – is so compelling and fresh and unique. LOVE.