Is It The End of Gender, or The Beginning of Men?

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  1. Well, I’m really pissed. I just spent 20 minutes writting a response and the page reloaded and I lost it :@.
    ANYWAYS, I’ll shorten it this time around. I just want to say THANK YOU for this article Lisa. I’m currently in university majoring in Anthropology with a minor in Women’s Studies, however I’m thinking of switching out of my minor and going to into Gender Studies for exactly the reason you described in your article. I’ve called my self a feminist for quite some time now. I’m what you’d describe as a physiological “feminine” female, but psychologically am not. And that is the precise reason I turned to feminism in the first place. I was tired of people making assumptions about me based on my assumptions (As a kid/teen I’d always get the “you’re too pretty to play hockey/videogames/soccer” crap) so I turned to feminism hoping to make sense of our society, to debunk gendered stereotypes and to prove to myself that I’m normal the way I am. I’m a true believer in equality. Maybe it’s because my dad is my bestfriend (and the only one who encouraged my tomboy attributes) or maybe it’s because I’m married to the greatest man ( or human ;) ) but I find there is alot of feminist theories out there that are simply outrageous and I find myself arguing and problematizing them constantly.I’m not putting down all feminist theory, by all means no, I find myself agreeing on most aspects on the libertarian feminist front, but throughout my studies I’ve realized this; if women have been constantly uncomfortable or have felt restricted by gender stereotypes, who’s to say men haven’t? I’ve noticed in most feminist litterature that they group men as whole, having all-encompassing universal traits. It’s false, and horribly denigrating.
    Anyways, I’m sending this article to a classmate of mine with whom I’m constantly arguing that men have struggled and are struggling. Sure, the struggle is different, but just as harmful.

  2. Maybe I have missed something important, but why is it so darned important whether one calls oneself a feminist or not? (I am new around here)

    I mean, there are so many definitions and practices of feminism, that labelling one as feminist can mean a lot of things. One can f.ex. be a feminist and care about the plight of men. bell hooks strikes me as a good example of this. I could probably also easily find feminists who don’t care about the plight and men (the same for non-feminists). So I don’t think you can necessarily deduce intent and behavior from someone labelling themselves as feminist.

    For me it is more important, whether one recognizes that sexism (whether based on gender, gender expression or sexual orientation) is systematic, and that it needs to be fought. This sexism comes in at least two types: (I am roughly using Julia Seranos “taxonomy” here):

    Traditional sexism: Men and masculinity is better than women and femininity
    Oppositional sexism: Men/masculinity is categorically different from women/femininity (and they shouldn’t be mixed)

    Of course theses two types of sexism are intertwined, but I think oppositional sexism is very much at the heart of mens problems.

    So I am more interested in discussing core ideas instead of labels. If you fight sexism (both kinds), I don’t care if you call yourself a feminist, humanitarian, equalitist or something else.

    (my first comment here, btw)


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