A relationship with this type of woman creates the perfect relationship—one with a self-perpetuating synergy.
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There are different types of women in the world… just as there are different types of people. Types, of course, being a generalized version of an individual — no one ever fits their parameters entirely.
Types are oversimplified and people are very complex. Nevertheless, it’s generalizations that allow us to understand things and concepts that we otherwise wouldn’t be capable of understanding.
Take, for example, finding your ideal woman — your ideal partner in life. We are all looking for a certain type — our type. Everyone has a type. Some like them taller, others shorter.
Some like simple women, others like accomplished and driven women. As far as types go, people get very creative — and often even weird. But our type is our type, and we want what we want.
What I’m going to tell you is that you can have your “type” as long as it incorporates what I believe to be the only “type” of any value.
Over the past decade or so, I’ve done my fair share of “dating.” I’ve met with a good amount of women; I’ve had conversations with a good amount of women. I’ve taken them for dinners and drinks, and trips, etc.
Even after flying to different countries for women — if I find something that intrigues me, I’m very persistent — I realized that women can, when looking as generally as possible, be placed into two categories. The first, women who suck the drive for life — and everything else of any value — right out of you.
And, more importantly, the second, women who not only make you want a better life, but make you believe that a better life is actually possible.
Every single woman in the world falls into one of these two categories — no exceptions. However, a woman who falls into a certain category for one individual can fall into the other for someone else — our types are personal after all. Although there may not be a woman who would fall into the better of the categories for every man in the world, there certainly are women who always fall into the blood-sucking category. Just some food for thought.
You’re going to come across many different women in your life and many of them are going to be horrible human beings. It’s sad, but there are many horrible people in this world — men and women alike.
Many of them will be very nice and interesting, of course. And if you’re lucky, a good amount of them will be amazing. Yet, meeting more than one who will make you both strive for that ideal life and make you believe it to be possible is — I wish it were otherwise — highly unlikely.
It should come as no surprise that finding someone who fits your life so perfectly, so perfectly that you start to believe and hunger for that which you used to think impossible, is usually only a once in a lifetime occurrence. Sure, you may get lucky and find two such women within a single lifetime, but considering that finding one is already statistically against your favor, I very much doubt you’ll come across a second.
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This type of woman is incredibly hard to come by because she is not only a woman you fall in love with and love for the right reasons, she also has to be a woman worthy of being loved — and the only type of woman worthy of being loved by a man is the type of woman that makes that man want to be the best possible man he could ever be.
She inspires him to be better, to work both harder and smarter, to be fair, kind and passionate. She inspires him to be the best possible human being he could ever be because he believes that she deserves nothing less.
Such a relationship is the perfect relationship as it creates a self-perpetuating synergy. Just as the woman inspires her man, her man inspires her to be better, do better, live better. This is the only type of partner we ought to ever settle down with as it is the only type of relationship that has hope for a better future built into its genetics.
Relationships are hard. Life is hard. Sometimes, getting up and doing that which we need to do, is hard. Nothing in life worth a dime is easy — ever. You’re going to get into fights and arguments. Life is going to throw you curveballs and test your love for each other. Sh*t is going to happen and it is going to not just happen to you or her; it’s going to happen to the two of you.
You have to understand that just as you’ll share your lover’s joys and happiness, you’re also going to share her pains and suffering. What having the right type of woman by your side will give you is the hope that you can fix whatever issues are at hand.
Why? Because the two of you have no problem working towards a shared goal. You’re a team. You managed to shape your lives thus far and believe in each other enough to keep pushing ahead nonetheless.
You have a life partner who won’t give up on you and — most importantly — you have a partner that you will sooner die for than give up on.
Don’t waste time chasing after women who fall short of this category; time is a luxury you don’t want to be frugal with.
There is only one type of woman in this world who is worth chasing and that’s a woman who makes you believe you’re capable of making your own dreams come true.
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by Paul Hudson
This post originally appeared at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission.
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A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson (@MrPaulHudson) has been writing for Elite Daily nearly since the start. He primarily addresses the successes and downfalls of love and life.
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Photo: Kristina Servant / flickr
Well, really, if you don’t understand this post, you’re clearly not *that* in love yet. There are levels and it takes time to get through them.
Well, you could also look at it from a different angle. Instead of searching for the perfect partner (and let’s drop the gender difference here as it applies both ways) how about thinking about the concept of like attracts like and in order to attract the perfect partner, BE that person yourself. Be the best YOU can be first and refrain from putting the expectation on the other person to meet your needs. It’s easy to think your own happiness is someone else’s responsibility. You could wait your whole life for that perfect person to come along when instead you… Read more »
Thank you for sharing such a nice article and it’s a fact.. we shld never leave that one girl. Worth reading the post.
Very bad article,…must say..u failed to define women in 2 categories…your experience doesnt hve a base……everyone is unique…respect ur partner whoever he or she is….except in sme extreme situation if it is unethical or immoral….because he or she is ur soulmate…ur better half…..
The article lacks concreteness. Author is desperately trying to convey something but couldn’t.
Looked to me like someone who desperately needed to hit a minimum word count to get their article accepted, and didn’t really have much to say.
Well the type of women who not only pushes her man’s dream forward but also who is independent enough to bother him least in her petty issues .
The type of woman who is not ready to Seattle for less than what she believe to be deserved .
That’s the irony of life ,these type of woman mostly stay single cuz they are termed as “badass ” in our brutal and male chauvinistic society .
Men wants independent but not so badass woman and that what reality is .
i love it…. i am beginning to understand how men behaves… thanks a lot
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This article seems fairly childish and uninspired to me. Putting women in two categories, saying that you might find only one that is worthy of love in your life, that the majority of people out there are horrible, the word bloodsuckers… It seems like you still have a lot to learn about human connection, about the purity of love, ablut how people are complex beings that only try to find their place in the world, and most important, it seems you still have to learn a lot about yourself.
he just means all through this article is
there are lots of womens out there but it wd be better if you find out the right one
motivating,supporting like all our dreams come true type person
its just like girls wish for caring lovable persons
Well i must say , after long time i came through such nice and sensible post ; beautifully written .. 🙂
A good read ???
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That’s so true!
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All was good till you talked about chasing women. Chase your dreams and goals. The right woman will find you.
In the world of information explosion where we come across numerous blogs on a number of platforms telling you an odd number of things you should/shouldn’t look for in your partner, this blog is a breath of fresh air and nails down everything into one. Bookmarked it. 🙂
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well said
Wow, what a “perfect” world you live in. It makes sense that you are described as a young writer. I never trust people who use words like “perfect” or “type” or “blood sucking.” What do you have to offer to the relationship? You never mention what men have to offer women. I have no problem with you writing this piece, just with the people who paid you and published it. The only insight it offers me is into your personal psyche. Might I suggest you put this article away for about 20 years and then look at it again. And… Read more »
A woman is a rainbow she can at any point of time change to what she wants. She can leave the man she loves and stay even with a man she doesn’t. Why do we categorise them in terms of what they have for a man to give. Every women is worth chasing if she is your queen.
Agree with u nidhi
Absolutely that’s the horrible human being the blog was talking about .every guy needs a women who doesn’t give up on him ans not women who can dig money or have fun with more guys in the name of love
Good Men Project — Can you consider adding “Like” buttons so we can like comments that speak to us?
Another point:
When men chase me and do not allow me my space, I prefer to flee.
Chasing someone too much is selfish.
I’ve heard it said that the moment you have to prove yourself to someone is the moment you should consider walking away. No one is perfect at all times. Sometimes, we will be drained by other people or may drain them, but if it is not habitual, it can be managed. With that said, we need to be complete within ourselves and find inspiration within ourselves rather than expect another to always inspire or encourage us. High expectations and lack of reciprocation are set-ups for disappointment. I agree completely with what Anthony Connor and Lily wrote — their comments offer… Read more »
The article is absolutely a fact and crystal clear , it was hypothetical , it was a veteran guy speaking in this article. In many stories with all due respect to both Genders a man will chase a woman he adores and thinks the right one for him
I feel for the author. He sounds needy, dependent and afraid of being alone. I hope he realises one day that no woman will ever complete him, adore him, inspire him to the level he expects. When he finds contentment in himself, he’ll be fine.
Reading this was emotionally draining bwahahaha ..this dude seems like an energy vampire himself. Good men project, what happened here?
It seems like the production quality went downhill as soon as they started republishing articles from Elite Daily.
The writer seems to be taking a very narrow and one side view. Ofcourse there are variety of people and they react differently around different ‘types’ of people. That you hardly managed to meet the women who inspired you makes me wonder how much effort were you able to put in the relationships. It does not work if one partner is always wanting things for oneself and never voluntarily taking care of the other.
The very first sentence of this article tells you everything you need to know about the author’s attitude towards women:
“There are different types of women in the world… just as there are different types of people.”
This sentence? Women != People.
I believe he is trying to say that women are individuals, that there are different types of women, just as there are different types of people meaning men, women, those that don’t identify as either, children, etc. Women are a subset of people, I don’t believe he is implying women are not people.
What T. Ann said.
This is a terrible, terrible article, and gender flipping doesn’t make it any better. While its initial premise seems sound, that we should only pursue and be with people who “make you want a better life”, it has so many other problems that I can’t even begin to cover all of them. Just a few examples: -“Although there may not be a woman who would fall into the better of the categories for every man in the world, there certainly are women who always fall into the blood-sucking category.” There is no logic or proof behind this statement, and would… Read more »
I had a problem with that last bit in particular, too. This bit: “This type of woman is incredibly hard to come by because she is not only a woman you fall in love with and love for the right reasons, she also has to be a woman worthy of being loved — and the only type of woman worthy of being loved by a man is the type of woman that makes that man want to be the best possible man he could ever be. She inspires him to be better, to work both harder and smarter, to be… Read more »
Every single woman is “worth” everything. So are men. Give people a chance to be people without dismissing some women as “unworthy” of your time. Life is not sales where you decide exactly who you need to talk to in order to maximize your time. Life is genuine, dynamic relationships, chances on people around you and developing the ability to love wholeheartedly. I’m a woman, but it is not up to you to decide if I’m “worth chasing.” I’m worth so much more that my value can’t be put into a blog post.