Carlo Alcos is tired of not being comfortable in his own skin, and wants us all to not be ashamed of our body parts.
[Preface: I will not be apologetic for what I am about to write, regardless of how uncomfortable it may make you feel, particularly those who know me personally. This is not about you. This is about me and about anyone who feels the same way as me. I am doing this for two reasons. They are:
1. I am tired of not being comfortable in my own skin. Our culture has taught me that I need to be like this and be like that in order to be liked, loved, desired, respected.
2. I want everyone, men and women alike, to not feel ashamed about any part of their body. We all deserve that. I am willing to take a little heat, willing to make people uncomfortable, if this helps to achieve that.]
Originally posted on Confronting Love.
I have a new hero. His name is Lawrence Barraclough. You’ve probably never heard of him, but he has a very small penis. He’s not my hero because he has a small penis. He’s my hero because he accepts his body and because he’s brave enough to come out and talk about it. You could say he has huge balls.
Recently, while laying in bed with my partner, I brought something up that I’ve never brought up with anyone else in my life. I explained to her the insecurities I’ve dealt with because of my own perceptions of my penis. The reason I felt I could do this is because she has been the only one who I’ve felt 100% comfortable being naked around. She makes it clear to me that she loves every inch of my body, which in turn makes me more accepting of it.
A few nights later we watched the documentary “My Penis and Everyone Else’s” by Lawrence Barraclough (at the bottom of this post). She’d seen it before but thought it was important for me to watch it. It was. We spend a lot of time and energy keeping parts of our bodies hidden from the public. You’ll see someone violently murdering or raping another person regularly on TV and in movies. You’ll rarely see a penis. What message does this send? Why are we made to feel ashamed of what is completely, 100%, natural? How much of a variety of penises and vaginas have you seen in your life?
I’m not convinced that women know how insecure it makes men when all we hear is “size matters.” What’s not taken into account, though, is how two people fit together. This blanket statement is generally perceived to mean “the bigger the better.”
Possibly the loudest voice to this notion is the pornography industry. Porn represents a massively skewed vision of what bodies are (and what many people believe they’re “supposed to be”). For example, there’s an idea of a “perfect” vagina; it’s common for women of porn to have cosmetic surgery called labiaplasty to conform to this. And in no way do the men of porn represent the average male. That’s exactly why they’re picked (not to mention the surgical options available for penis enlargement).
So how is it that anyone can look at this industry to set the standard of what is beautiful? If you knew the true diversity of genitals out there, might you feel better about your own set, knowing that, as a human being, you’re just normal? That you’re unique, and this is the way it’s supposed to be?
The media (surprise, surprise) perpetuates this as well by choosing to show clips of female characters comparing their boyfriends’ genitals or ridiculing men who are less than well-endowed. The word is out there: Bigger is better. And it’s all men hear. All. The. Time. This is then hammered home within our social circles, because everyone else is informed by mass media as well. It’s a pretty vicious cycle.
I’ve lived with this insecurity my whole life, and I’m pretty fucking tired of it. On the one side, I’ve been insecure with women because I’ve been scared of what they would think when it came to business time. I’ve been insecure with men — showering at the gym, using a public urinal — because of the competitiveness factor. This insecurity is a hole that bores deep down into self-esteem, potentially affecting relationships and, in general, has been a barrier to loving myself for who and what I am.
I’ve never measured my penis. Truthfully, I’ve been too scared to do it. I’ve never wanted to know, scared to confirm that yes, indeed, I am short of average. I’ve come to partial peace with this due to the fact that, at 5’6”, I’m also under average height. It’s all relative, isn’t it? But that’s actually besides the point. It’s just a story I’ve told myself to feel better. In reality, it doesn’t even matter. We have what we are born with. Period.
This discussion needs to be had. As a culture we need to learn to celebrate what we’ve been given and not want anything else. Part of that is going to include changing what we see in the mainstream. Let’s see vaginas and penises on the television and in movies. And not just “perfect” ones. All sorts of different ones, because each one is unique and unlike any other, and all are beautiful. As a part of nature, how can they not be?
Let’s choose to feel better about our bodies. Let’s learn to accept them for what they are. The root of the issue is in the mind, not in the physical body. If you had a beater of a car that barely chugged along, would you get a paint job to feel better about it? Or would you rather fix what’s under the hood so that it ran reliably?
My Penis and Everyone Else’s from Lawrence Barraclough on Vimeo.
Feature photo: Richard Carter
I was born with an abnormally small penis, that is retracted deep inside me most of the time. The only time I can even see the penis head is when I become semi erect, which makes it very difficult to even masturbate because there is nothing to stimulate except some loose skin. Even when the head does show it’s self the least bit of stimulation I will orgasm way before I become fully erect. Then it instantly retracts back in me so far I can’t even find it. When my penis rarely does become fully erect it’s only about 1… Read more »
I had a very well endowed boyfriend once, and sex with him was unpleasant. It was painful, even with a ton of lube. We couldn’t have sex doggy style at all because it hurt my cervix. So, basically every time we had sex, I just prayed for him to come as quickly as possible and get it over with. I started to avoid having sex with him and making excuses. The other problem was that he was so proud of his large penis that he thought I should get an orgasm just by looking at him. He was a crappy… Read more »
I thought that somewhere between 5 and 6 inches was about average size. I think my boyfriend’s is somewhere around there. I don’t think my vagina is much deeper than that, so I don’t see why longer would be better. In the past I believe I’ve suffered from involuntary muscular contractions (preventing me from inserting anything into my vagina). I had to use a dilator to be able to have vaginal sex in the first place and even now I think I’m probably a bit on the petite side. I don’t really get the cultural interest in penis size; I… Read more »
As much as I would love to cheerfully applaud this post as a sort of coming out for the “small” man the truth is that it’s a losing battle. I checked up on the author’s blog and the last post by a woman who had her own blog was something along the lines of “Why can’t we just accept other people’s preferences and appreciate unique tastes?” She had made a post detailing her dissatisfaction (in agreement with her friend and the subsequent posters) with small penises and how it was a deal breaker. Although she changed the tone of her… Read more »
@Bob Dole: “She and her friend laughed at small ones and *needed* big ones for satisfaction” I don’t think the author deny this. I think his point is “Not every woman want a big penis”. He’s against the media claim that “Big is ALWAYS better”. Of course is not, because different people have different tastes. Hence, I think the wise stance can be “Small is ok, but for some people is not good enough”. Of course that’s not PC and can be hurting, but OTOH everybody will always be “not enough” for somebody else (in other words, “You can’t make… Read more »
Bob Dole (if that is your real name)…as much as Valter and I have disagreed on things in this comment thread, he’s absolutely right. This post is about body acceptance. The battle isn’t really about “what do women REALLY want?” so it’s not a battle to be won or lost. The battle that needs to be won is within each man himself, internally (same goes for women). So in that way, no, it’s not a losing battle. It’s a battle that each of us must win, because otherwise we will remain unhappy. This post is really about me, as selfish… Read more »
If accepting your body means accepting that you are less than good enough then that’s fine, I suppose.
When you meet that woman who prefers small, let me know, she’d be the first.
Who defines what’s “good enough”? And why should anyone else listen to those who make that definition? And what is it that’s in you where you want other people to feel less than “good enough”?
I have a partner who loves my body. Every inch of it. What more could I ask for?
“The battle that needs to be won is within each man himself, internally (same goes for women).” Well said Carlos. I think maybe Bob has had some (or a lot) bad personal experiences. However those anecdotal experiences don’t equal what “all women think.” Every person has their preferences and you just need to keep searching until you find the one who loves you just the way you are. That person is out there. There are many who will love you the way you are. But an important thing to remember is that you need to be open to it. If… Read more »
You’re all missing the point. Sure, there will always be those girls that are size-queens. And then there are also women out there that can’t get off as well with a penis as they can with fingers (or toys) for some reason or another. Everyone’s different. Including women. Preferred dick size is different for every one of them. I’ve read posts by women claiming that over-sized dicks sometimes result in painful sex rather than pleasure. =/ Also, there are a myriad of ways to have sex. The author’s right, I don’t see why someone with a small penis is seen… Read more »
This is very true. Size preference is different for everyone. And in reality most women can’t get off on vaginal intercourse alone, so well size isn’t the problem. Clitoral stimulation is. My last boyfriend couldn’t get me off even though he was well sized. I had to tell him yeah for all your size your not going to get me off, this is what needs to be done. *Sigh* Not that he listened to me.
@Bob Dole: Some interesting, if kinda harsh, insights here, but i find myself agreeing with at least some of what you say and would be interested in unpacking it more. daspire2 at yahoo
You know, the whole size discussion often marginalizes women to whom size really doesn’t matter. I’m sure it matters to many, even most, but I’m sick of hearing “it matters to you, you’re just not willing to admit it.” It’s not on the same level, but it reminds me of when guys say they’re being sexually harassed and then get laughed at. How can a guy possibly feel uncomfortable when a woman is overstepping her boundaries? How can a woman possibly not care about size? Like I’ve said…with extremes…yeah, they can cause practical problems. 3 inches? 11 inches? Sure, there’ll… Read more »
Everybody want “more”. More money, more love, bigger cars, bigger homes, a better sex life… It’s not just media and culture, it’s part of human nature; it’s what made us conquering this world. Saying that “size doesn’t matter” is just false: for most people some size matters (be it tallness, ass, curves, hair, breasts, legs, muscles, hands… whatever). Some like it more, some like it less. In the same way, some women like feeling “filled” by their partner’s manhood, and some women feel pain when the penis is too big. Sometimes size does matter. I think the key lies in… Read more »
I sort of agree, sort of not. When it comes to extremes…yes. Very, very small or very, very large will cause many practical problems, unfortunately. Anything small average to large average…really doesn’t matter for me. As I’ve said, the chemistry, tingle factor, and what we do together have always mattered more. I’ve had great and bad sex with men with small penises and great and bad sex with men with large penises. If it’s REALLY too small to be pleasing at all, there are other ways to please a woman (dildos, oral, fingering). If it’s REALLY large, then please be… Read more »
“it’s part of human nature; it’s what made us conquering this world.” Umm, no. Humans don’t have it in their nature to “conquer” the world. We’ve lived for millions of years on this planet and it’s only in the last 10,000 years or so that we started to do that.
@Carlo Alcos: “Humans don’t have it in their nature to “conquer” the world” Really? 😯 Until 60 years ago, most countries settled their disputes through wars (some still do). We had several (much celebrated) empires. We subjugated every animal, every land, everywhere. We behave like we’re the master of this world; the major Western religion explicitly tells that God created humans to dominate the planet (despite any opposite evidence). To me, 10.000 years are proof enough of this relentless trend (and, before that, we just lacked the power or the means – not the will). As agent Smith noted in… Read more »
10,000 years is irrelevant to prove it…all that is is just the starting point for the civilization that we’re currently part of…when humans began agriculture on a mass scale and settled. This notion of conquering began there (conquering land/animals/other people). Even if you want to go with the “10,000 years is enough to prove it” theory, modern humans have been around for around 200,000 years…so our civilization is only 5% of that time. 95% of the time we’ve been around (homo sapiens) we’ve been living as part of nature, not above it. Still think that’s enough for proof? What scientist… Read more »
@Carlo Alcos: “95% of the time we’ve been around (homo sapiens) we’ve been living as part of nature, not above it.” Yes, but because we could not conquer it – not because we would not. As soon as we had means to conquer it, we did (most humans, at least); and we did it massively. @Carlo Alcos: “What scientist would think if something occurred 5% of the time that it’s enough to prove something?” Your paragon is misleading. We have been able to fly things heavier than air for just a century – against the millennia we couldn’t. This doesn’t… Read more »
“I’m just looking at the facts. At history.” – This is the problem, you’re not looking at “history”…you’re looking at a very small portion of history and drawing conclusions based on that. Egyptians/Greeks/Romans…these are all groups that are part of our current civilization, the civilization that has the story that “we will conquer the earth (and universe)” built into it. I’m saying it’s not human nature, but rather the nature of this civilization. Anyway, I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree on this point. You choose what you believe, I choose what I believe. And I’m certainly not… Read more »
@Carlo Alcos: “you’re looking at a very small portion of history”
AFAIK, recorded history begins around 10.000 years ago. Before that, it’s mostly suppositions.
Anyway, I agree to disagree.
I write for the sake of discussion, and my opinion is worth as anybody’s else. 🙂
Back to penises, I agree with you that how people fit together is what matters most.
And bigger is not always better. Sometimes, less is more. 8)
Carlo, I’m more inclined to go with Valter on this. Just go to yoyr local “sex shop” and check out the size of the “Toys” for women. Not that many “Average-Normal” size. I think that scene with the clay sclupting was pretty accurate. As was his interviewing the 2 “club girls” in America near the beginning. Look, for the most part, asking a woman in a serious relationship a basically hypothetical question “Does size matter”, she’s already made her decision. A more telling question might be “Would you be upset if tomorrow morning you woke up to realize your man… Read more »
That’s funny because in the local sex shop I work at, most of the insertable toys are between 4 and 7.5 inches long.
@Carlo Alcos: “Let’s see vaginas and penises on the television and in movies” Hooray for that! 😀 What’s the point in hiding genitalia anyway? It’s just natural body parts. Children wouldn’t be shocked, they would just be curious (and they already are). The only shocked people would be bigots and sexuophobics. I’ve seen over 50 vulvas in my life, and I always found them cute and fascinating. The more we see other people’s genitalia, the more we acknowledge ours is just “normal”. OTOH, Carlo, some women DO like big penises. Just like some women (many? most?) like rich men, and… Read more »
Thanks Valtar…however I disagree with you. Yes, having a preference will be natural, of course, but for the most part our preferences are shaped by culture (and by extension, the media). When you say men like big breasts and long legs, that’s OUR culture. This isn’t true in, say, Africa, where their preference is for bigger women. Even within our own culture these preferences change over time…just look at magazine models over the course of time…the bodies that are shown continuously change. This is a reflection of what our culture deems “beautiful” in that time period, and we, as consumers… Read more »
As a woman, I’m with you, Carlo. I do agree with Valter on the not hiding genitalia point, but I do think the obsession with penis size and body types is mostly cultural and has certainly changed in every period of history.
“Usually when I am naked with a guy, it’s the insecurities about my body that are running through my head and never thought anything negative about a guy’s, I had been with, body. Maybe if men are able to accept their own bodies, they would be more accepting of regular female bodies too and not uphold certain women to ideals of their own too.” I agree. When I’m with a man, if anything does take me out of the moment, it’s my own insecurities, not any judgement on his body. I’m not going to stop having sex with or make… Read more »
You all say size doesn’t matter, but you say “I’m not going tostop having sex with or make fun of a guy I’m really into Because he’s not as big as I might have thought.” This means you were thinking about the “size” of the guy from the get-go. The latest thing in the Rom-Com movies, is what I call ‘The Gratiouitious Sausage Scene’ . Like in that new ‘chick flick’ ‘The Vow’. Where Channing Tatum gets to show the ladies his ahem, acting credenitials (or is it his credentials from his last job as a male stripper). The local… Read more »
It does kind of amaze me just how much female traffic you get in the response section whenever you do an article on penis size.
It’s not the size that matters but the skill with which it is applied. It also depends LARGELY on the man, not his equipment.
So when the medical field can actually modify penis size, will it be encumbent on a thoughtfull male lover to size his unit for his significant other? I just like to throw wrenches at monkeys. (Disclaimer for PETA: no monkeys were actually forced to dodge any wrenches. Although in the filming of the movie “Dodgeball”, humans may have been forced to dodge wrenches. You may want to check into that).
I would be incredibly uncomfortable with my significant other doing any sort of adjustment to his penis. It’s like breast augmentation – I don’t think it’s really a healthy choice. Healthy as in mentally and emotionally, and very probably physically.
“My preference is that this discussion does not enter into a gender war, as happens quite often on GMP.”
I guess I should stay away then. Too bad, because there is definitely a gender-angle to this, one with which I have extensive personal experience.
Well of course there is a gender-angle to this…we are talking about penises…what I meant is that it’s not a men vs women thing…women shame men, men shame women thing…the whole male vs female topic is just such a turnoff because it’s a huge blanket statement that isn’t real. Speaking for myself, my insecurities come from both how other males act and also how females act. In the end though, it’s really about myself. This is not a rail against women or men, it’s just meant to say “hey look, I’m thinking this, chances are you’re thinking this, we’re just… Read more »
Doesn’t the whole obsession with longer penises sort of come from male fantasy? If most of porn is marketed towards men, then those giant penises which we see (instead of faces, which makes this heterosexual, porn-watching woman sad) are part of the sex fantasy. Also, there’s more of a focus on length rather than girth, so I feel that if penis size were really women-driven standards, that would be the unit of measurement. It seems like penis length is used by men to prove their manhood, rather than having anything to do with women at all. Which is obviously also… Read more »
Also, I would like to say, as a heterosexual woman, penises are awesome in all shapes and sizes. But the important part is the man attached to said penis. 🙂
I am forever complaining about the whole ‘penis size’ thing that men are coerced into believing. I’ve seen a number of penises in my lifetime – some big, some small – and I can tell you the size of the penis was never of utmost concern to me. I think it’s far more important to be with a loving, caring individual who is concerned about your safety, comfort, and pleasure. It really makes me terribly sad to see men worrying about penis size the way women are made to feel badly about their waist size. I know a lot of… Read more »
Thanks Jasmine. Well said. When it comes to this, men can be our own worst enemy as we try to “one up” each other, especially in youth. It’s merely posturing. I’d like to see a rule whereby if you brag about your size you have to prove it. That’d probably shut a lot of guys up. The more we can get the message about bodily self-love in front of young people the better. Imagine that world.
I’ve seen that too many times – men trying to demean other men by suggesting that his penis is small, as though the size of a body part is going to make someone more or less of anything. It sounds almost as absurd to me as saying that a man is less of a man if his thumb isn’t big enough, or if his earlobes are weird shapes. I dream of a world where the message of bodily self-love has been wholly accepted; where people are impervious to the incessant barrage of media messages that the bodies we were born… Read more »
I’ve seen that too many times – men trying to demean other men by suggesting that his penis is small, as though the size of a body part is going to make someone more or less of anything. It sounds almost as absurd to me as saying that a man is less of a man if his thumb isn’t big enough, or if his earlobes are weird shapes. The problem is that one upping that people do among themselves is reinforced by the current fact that people outside that one upping environment actually support it. Just as there are men… Read more »
Carlos, I like that you are keeping the discussion going. And that you are talking about something that I never had the experience of a man really talking to me about. I frankly probably don’t know how much insecurity is tied to men and the size of their penis or their bodies in general. Usually when I am naked with a guy, it’s the insecurities about my body that are running through my head and never thought anything negative about a guy’s, I had been with, body. Maybe if men are able to accept their own bodies, they would be… Read more »
Yeah it would do a lot of people on all sides good to be able to accept their own bodies, thus helping them to be more accepting of others. At the end of the day, I think both men and women want to be accepted and enjoyed for who they really are. And they want the other person to be excited by who they are. Not simply “tolerate” it. A common wish among many (if not all) people. It may sound superficial but a lot of people would do get something out of knowing that the person they are with,… Read more »
Yes. As I stated in the post, the only reason I was remotely comfortable speaking of this is because of the way my partner treats me. Having that kind of support does wonders. Start with yourself, then spread that to others, you never know how someone will be affected by it.
“Maybe if men are able to accept their own bodies, they would be more accepting of regular female bodies too and not uphold certain women to ideals of their own too. ” Why does this sound like male blaming? I’d say both are at fault and need to address their insecurities, our entire society has become crazy over body image and that certain fat-free look, some men and women uphold certain ideals of what a body should be and not everyone fits that mold. I am an overweight male and believe me, it’s both genders that are pushing the body… Read more »
One of the best things of amateur porn: I’ve seen men with smaller penii, varying body shapes n sizes have sex with women of varying shapes n sizes, and in that the women were quite pleased with what looked like was a fairly small penis even. It definitely has changed my view in letting me realize attraction isn’t so limited.
That’s a good point, about amateur porn. “Real” people.
It does not matter whether the cat is black or white till it catches mice. Penis is designed by nature to serve a purpose and till it fulfills its purpose, everything is alright. After all you do not have to drive nails in wall with it.
I too wish human beings could relax about their body parts. Our media doesn’t help, it’s true but I’m sure people throughout the ages have found ways to pick on each other. As for size? What matters is the combination of people and their parts. You have to learn to trust your partner’s pleasure as the truth about you and what you are bringing to them. The whole “big” thing might be important to someone who’s internal clitoris really got stimulated from PIV sex. Or who had a vagina that was built well for a large penis. But for someone… Read more »
That’s why it’s so important to keep the discussion going…no one likes low self-esteem, no one likes to feel ashamed…but the one thing that keeps that going is the feeling that we’re all alone (esp. in regards to men because most men don’t talk). If word got out that we all have these same issues and we’re all normal then we wouldn’t feel so badly about ourselves and will be able to move beyond it. Thanks for your comment.
I misread that for a sec: I thought 5’6″ was your penis size.
When I started going with the guy who eventually became my husband he used to fret like you about penis size, which I thought was astounding since he was so talented and awesome and sexy in every way…I was shocked that he thought this one body part was so important that we should forget about the whole package…in fact, my ex before him was in fact, physically bigger, but I did not feel attracted to him or enjoyed him much at all….the fit, both emotionally and physically, was perfect between me and my future husband… I guess he thought maybe… Read more »
Thanks Lela, this is exactly the point I’m trying to make here too, that it’s less about size than it is about how two people go together. Some women will prefer a large penis, some a smaller one. Just like penises can be big and small, the same is true for vaginas. And also, yes, penetration is only part of sex.
I’m not convinced that women know how insecure it makes men when all we hear is “size matters.” I’m not convinced that even the ones that claim that “its not all about size” know how insecure we can be about it. Take that stick woman in the drawing. Is she asking to move on because she wants men to know that size doesn’t matter or does she just want men to shut up about it. And I think there is a difference. Take a look at the body insecurities that harm women like breast size and the way their labia… Read more »
I haven’t ever seen a woman get enjoyment “out of seeing men writhe in shame about our bodies.” Any woman who gets too caught up in media protrayals of women is too busy writhing in shame about their own bodies to enjoy seeing someone else doing the same. There are probably the same number of women who could actually enjoy that as there are men who could enjoy seeing the women writhe. BOTH sexes are not being fairly or accurately represented. I’ll agree that it makes sense for the media to generally make everyone ashamed about some random body part… Read more »
My preference is that this discussion does not enter into a gender war, as happens quite often on GMP. This is not about men vs. women (for the record, I’m way over this gender thing…we’re all human beings). The topic here is about penis size and body image and how we deal with it. I do agree with the points about the media…in fact our whole consumeristic culture. After all, it breeds on fear. Fear is what drives the sale of products that no one needs. I don’t think it matters who is driving the media machine, men or women…the… Read more »
Fair enough Carlos. It’s easy to get defensive about blanket statements made based on sex, but that’s not what you wrote about. I think that both docs Lawrence made could have talked a bit more about how our growing acceptance of the commodification of sex through porn has distorted society’s view of what a “normal” penis is. (I know he touched on it briefly in the first one.) It has contributed to growing dissatisfaction and unrealistic expectations more than people want to realise. It’s curious though, that Ron Jeremy said once that he didn’t really get famous until he was… Read more »
It’s curious though, that Ron Jeremy said once that he didn’t really get famous until he was fat, (which is outside the media standard for attractiveness of course).
Probably because they didn’t want a guy with too many good things going for him. Conventionally attractive and a large cock? That’s just too far out there.
Carlo, face it , “Bigger is Better” sells and makes a lot of people a lot of money. But it’s also based partially on truth. Asking you woman if size matters is like her asking you “Does this dress make me look fat?” There’s only one answer. It might be the truth or it might not. But there’s only one answer, “Of course not”.
I haven’t ever seen a woman get enjoyment “out of seeing men writhe in shame about our bodies.” Any woman who gets too caught up in media protrayals of women is too busy writhing in shame about their own bodies to enjoy seeing someone else doing the same. There are probably the same number of women who could actually enjoy that as there are men who could enjoy seeing the women writhe. BOTH sexes are not being fairly or accurately represented. Oh you’ve never seen a woman sexually shame a guy? Lucky me and now that I’ve met you I’m… Read more »
“Oh you’ve never seen a woman sexually shame a guy?” As another woman here, I have not witnessed this. However, I find it much more likely that it would happen behind closed doors 🙁 Also, your comment on the media was one I made further down: there has been an uptick in objectifying men in the same manner media typically objectifies women. I’m thinking mostly of advertising, but movies and tv shows too. Those are all overwhelmingly run by men. (there has also been a noted increase in body issues among men, which I would conclude is related to this)… Read more »
(there has also been a noted increase in body issues among men, which I would conclude is related to this)
I wonder if the change in media led to an increase in body issues among men or did the change in media lead to an increase in reported cases of body image issues among men.
Ohhh, interesting. Not sure. My conclusion makes logical sense to me, but I suppose it can’t really be proved either way.
“So how is it that anyone can look at this industry to set the standard of what is beautiful?”
I don’t understand. Who does this?
Also, that’s the most aesthetic tuft of pubic hair ever…
What’s not to understand? I think you understand, you just don’t agree. It’s my opinion that many people do this. This is a big reason for the perpetuation of penis envy, especially when it’s essentially the only place you’ll see penises. What’s even more harmful these days is the accessibility of porn and the exposure of it to younger and younger audiences who don’t have critical thinking skills.
I find it weird that men are generally given the message to not like any part of their body. And women are told to like thair bodies IF they can fit into a size “0” dress while also filling out a D-cup. We all know that people in magasines and on TV don’t look like that in real life, so why can’t we all agree to move past that? With regards to penises specifically, they do seem to be only painted as ‘dirty’ or ‘nasty.’ It doesn’t really make sense that with so many men directing the media, we are… Read more »
Vulva, not vagina. Great article.
You say Vulva, I say Vagina. You say tomato, I say tomata’….Vulva, Vagina, Tomato, Tomata…let’s call the whole thing off. (sorry, couldn’t resist)
Hilarious! 😆
Thanks. That is one of my major pet peeves.
Sorry…what is one of your major pet peeves exactly? That many men are insecure about their penis size? (If so, how do you address it?)
haha no, sorry, I was responding to the vagina vs. vulva thing. My major pet peeve is when people refer to the vulva as the vagina.