Men Who were Abused as Boys

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  1. It’s Halloween – people dress up as Monsters!

    Which is the most scary and frightening, Freddy Krugger or Jerry Sandusky?

    You have two options for a costume – Freddy Krugger or Jerry Sandusky. Choose!

    Funny how so many go for the least scary option of Krugger because they are far too scared of being seen as Sandusky!

    • Depicting paedophiles as monsters is not helpful. The acts are monstrous, but they are committed by people.

      People ask how such a monster can get away with peadophilia. The answer is that no-one knew that they were a monster, until the media tells everyone. Before the first reports everyone thought Sandusky was a great guy.

      When we ask people to stop child abuse, we are asking them to report a person, someone that they may know. The witness knows that this man or woman is not a monster, because they have seen them live a normal human life. Their friend, colleague, boss or babysitter cannot possibly be one of those monstrous Sanduskys. Knowing that this person committed an act of child abuse, and is also a person can seem like mutually exclusive statements. The easiest thing to do is not believe the child.

      You need to know that paedophiles are human, and you probably know one. Then you can start reporting.


      If we keep a model of paedophiles as monsters, we end up with policies that target strange men, not policies that actually protect children.

      • If we keep a model of paedophiles as monsters, we end up with policies that target strange men, not policies that actually protect children.

        Oh – Don’t I agree with that!

        I recently shocked the hell out of a group of Police Officers when they were shown material concerning this issue. In the UK the most common form of Hate Crime against Visibly Disabled Men is to be called Paedophile. There is literally a 100% incidence rate. It shocked the C### out of the police as they could see no reason or mechanism for it. They had to get some eduction in History – Sociology – Psychology … and seasoned with quite a dollop of Theology so they could get with reality.

        Labelling for convenience and out of sheer laziness allows labels to slip and get transferred – along with the Gross Stereotypes!

        …. and I still do wonder if so many are willing to throw that Monster Label about, if they will wear a Sandusky Costume for Halloween?

        Some people just don’t have the courage of their own convictions! P^)

  2. I hate to be brutally honest but many abusers are in your own family circle. 93% of kids know and trust their perpetrators . Predators prey. They prey on vulnerable children; children who do not know their rights about their body, and young children who just want to be good and do what the ‘big person’ says. Sound familiar: “Now be good and do what Uncle says.” Educate your kids in sexual abuse prevention education. If there is any chance the secret will be told, abusers will not target that child. Pedophiles rely very heavily on secrets being kept. Educate your kids PLEASE!

  3. Hi, I’m doing my MA in Queer Theory at the Birmingham School of art. Currently researching on the representation of the psychological tensions of the individual caused by the influence of society, I hope my final presentation will be an installation that will investigate the idea of beauty as an internal space contaminated by the external (in that case will be child abusing, being abused myself at the age of 6). Please follow me on wordpress at


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