My 4 Year-Old Thinks He’s Fat

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About Aaron Gouveia

Aaron is husband to a woman far too beautiful to have married him, and father of two sons far too perfect to be his. After nearly a decade as a Boston-area journalist, he decided to actually get paid and became a content manager. When he's not griping about his beloved Boston sports teams, he's detailing life as a dad at The Daddy Files. You can follow him on Twitter (@DaddyFiles) and Facebook.

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  1. “For some naive reason, I thought because I’m raising a son I would never have to deal with body issues and all that crap.”

    Wouldn’t feel too bad about it. It seems our society has a collective blind spot when it comes to how negative messages can hurt boys. It puts all of its focus on stopping boys from hurting others, which is, in and of itself, an incredibly negative message to tell boys.

  2. Kirsten (in MT) says:

    I hope you will be gentle with yourself. How “kid logic” works isn’t always easy to anticipate.

  3. One memory I have that relates to this is when I was about 10.

    I was a pretty carefree child. One day at a family gathering I overheard my mother say to my aunt “Gosh he’s a confident kid, never has his shirt on. It’s great he doesn’t care he has a bit of a tummy”.

    BOOM. Sudden realisation, and about 3 to 4 years of insecurity stemming from that one moment. Thing is, I know what she said was meant to be nice, and don’t blame her at all.

    I’d stop worrying about the small things you say or you’ll go insane. Much simpler and more effective to have an honest discussion with your kid about it as society is probably going to give them those fears anyway.

    PS: Currently 19 and feeling sexy :p

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