Have you ever tried to invite your friend for a beer or coffee and instead of approval you receive an excuse like…
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“Sorry but I have to stay at home, I’m trying to cure my daughter, she is lesbian you know?”
No, you haven’t.
But, if you think this is not possible, than you are wrong, because exactly the same situation happened these days to a British citizen, Christina Fontes, who was abducted by her own family who were determined to cure her.
Yes, Christina is openly lesbian, and she is a prominent human rights activist from Manchester. Still, she had to be detained against her will by her mother and sister. All of this happened during her stay in DR Congo, while she was visiting her mother and sister.
When we hear Christina’s story, the invitation your friend declined because of ‘curing their daughter’ doesn’t sound silly anymore. It doesn’t sound silly at all.
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No matter how much we try, certain people still refuse to understand that open sexuality is not a disease. It’s simply a matter of orientation, and nobody knows for sure why someone is LGBT and another one is not.
There are some popular beliefs that open sexuality being promoted by the media is influencing young people to try ‘becoming’ LGBT. Well that is not true. Talking openly helps youngsters come out easier and in greater numbers than before. We are talking about emancipation of sexuality in terms of accepting the truth about your own children and their true sexuality. What we are witnessing is people understanding themselves better and having the courage to confront their parents, family, and community.
No cure or special type of parenting will help you prevent your children being LGBT. If some of them are, don’t refuse your friend’s or neighbor’s invitation for a beer or coffee because you have to ‘cure your lesbian daughter.’ There is no cure.
However, there is a proverb,
“When you are dead it doesn’t affect you but it affects people closest to you, and it is the same thing when you are stupid.”
In our case this proverb can be interpreted into the following:
”When you are LGBT, you affect people closest to you, especially stupid ones.”
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We can conclude that there is no cure for stupidity, as there is no cure for sexuality. Otherwise people would throw some ice cold water on their heads and would donate great sums of money for research to find a cure for ‘gayness’. Yes, it would be called, Ice Buthead Challenge and would be a great chance for people to fight sexuality by being exclusively stupid.
Sexuality is not a disease, and as soon as we can understand this, the sooner we will exit the dark circle of ignorance, the only place on earth where people think you can be cured for being gay, and be called smart for being incredibly stupid.
Sometimes being stupid is a matter of choice!
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