We don’t shy away from the difficult conversations. We embrace them. We want to talk about them. We want people to have a voice about the issues related to men that they haven’t had before.
Rape is a polarizing topic. It’s difficult to talk about because there tends to be both blame and shame thrown around. We’d like to get beyond that, talk about the issues through the sheer power of storytelling. To find a different way into the conversation, so that a thoughtful, intelligent, insightful conversation can be held.
On Rape and Sexual Violence
Trigger warning: Many of these articles contain personal anecdotes of rape, sexual violence and abuse that may prove triggering for some.
You Can Get Laid Without Being a Jerk
There are a lot of ways to be a jerk when you’re trying to get laid. Emily Heist Moss writes a letter to her brother about how to make hook-up culture be about pleasure and consent, instead of “scoring.”
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The Accidental Rapist
Just because your partner isn’t saying “no,” Hugo Schwyzer writes, it doesn’t mean it’s a “yes.”
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I Used to Stand in Dark Hallways and Say “Kiss Me”
Lisa Hickey wants to have a conversation about rape. But until today, she didn’t know where to start.
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The First One to Come Forward
Tom Matlack has a conversation with one of the first victims to come forward about sexual abuse in the Catholic Church.
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I Ain’t Talking
When you can’t talk, write poetry.
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The Consensus of Flies: A Rant
Jackie Summers has a message for everyone: fuck society.
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Victims of the Crime
When Paul Kidwell’s girlfriend was raped years ago, the devastation of her trauma extended to their relationship, and though they have both moved on, that memory remains part of their lives.
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Rape Culture and Other Feminist Myths
According to some feminists, Quiet Riot Girl writes, rape is much worse—and better—than all other violent crimes.
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Panic
A woman finds herself unable to shake a single incident from her past.
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Girl Power
Paul Henne wonders how appropriate women’s self-defense classes actually are.
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Violence Against Women Is a Men’s Issue
Michael Flood wants us to stand up and do something about violence against women (and men).
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The Secret Children: A Poem About Abuse
Rick Belden, with a haunting poem of abuse, the ramifications, and how to move forward.
in which the tgmp totally excluded male survivors and female sex criminals.
My comments still stand and I’ll be watching to see if things change.
Its good to see Rick Belden being featured, as always.
In a comment several days ago, I said that I’d submitted something for this topic, that I’d been told it would be posted, and that I had yet to see it on the site. Among other possibilities, I suggested that perhaps the material was on the schedule and simply hadn’t been posted yet. Apparently that was indeed the case, as my submission was posted yesterday, as promised, and the link can be found above on this page. I’d like to thank the folks at GMP for accepting and posting my submission and including it with the other material on this… Read more »
Thank you Rick. I appreciate your thoughtfulness in this reply. We have an amazing group of people who are working literally 24/7 to make this happen. We talk about the topics that people — mostly men — submit to us. (About 85% of our contributions come from men). We try to be as responsive as we can to everyone. We also appreciate all of you who think there are topics of importance we are missing. The easiest way to do that is to submit. One thing that has been working — if you are afraid you will be the only… Read more »
I suppose you don’t have enough prison inmates submitting articles. Isn’t that why we send them to prison in part? So they can be raped into behaving better?
You may want to contact those concerned about the prison rape epidemic to get some info.
In the outside world, men getting raped does happen but it’s a whole lot rarer than the insider world where you may very well end up someone’s bitch.
Just sayin’…
I, too, have been very disappointed with the content posted in conjunction with this topic. I had assumed (this being a site for and about men, or so I thought) that the primary focus would be on male survivors and related issues, but clearly this is not the case. I’m not disputing the value or the necessity to promote exploration and discussion of other points of view in relation to this theme, but to me what has been presented so far has been way, way out of balance for a site about men and the male experience. If the intention… Read more »
Kenny, these article series are by invite only. Anything I would submit would not get included in the series, and would likely get rejected or buried on the site.
All submissions are considered. We have a very open submission policy. We asked for submissions on this topic from a wide variety of people, and specifically around men and boys but did not get any. We are ignoring no one. To say that anything you would submit would in get included in the series and would likely get rejected or buried on the site. is misinformation and blatently unfair. If this is not the site you want it to be, it’s up to you to step up and make it that way. That’s what everyone else is doing. You can… Read more »
I agree with several of the other posters here.
The GMP is starting to be a place I don’t want to come.
I feel ignored and attacked when at one time I felt safe and welcome.
How sad that out of eleven articles only one includes a male survivor, and even that article fails to mention anything about sexual violence against boys and men. It is despicable and troubling, although unsurprising, that people at Good Men Protect seems to think that sexual violence against boys and men does not happen and is not worth talking about.
Nobody really seems to care about male victims of anything. I’ve been wondering about this site for a long time.
I believe that Good Men Project post articles that are submitted. Maybe if you have or know of a story you would try to write?
Errrr…. At the risk of starting an intergalactic flame war, may I suggest “No means No!”
I found it quite simple to understand in fact.
Is that a good enough start?
Let the war begin!