‘Doctor’ Dave Kanegis offers an innovative Rx for finding your ideal mate.
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Tired of dating dissatisfaction and shattered expectations?
As the role of the American male continues to evolve, uncertainty rears its ugly head. Relationships with the opposite sex suffer as men are inundated with a wealth of misleading advertising and popular misconceptions.
Confusion reigns supreme over what combination of traits define a real man. This can be depressing, worrisome, and stressful for modern men. It also affects men and women equally, because it greatly impacts male-female relationships.
One thing is for sure–whatever your view on manhood, the more you know, the more you grow.
So what’s the secret to eradicating the stress so you enjoy dating more?
My intensive research, conducted over many years, has revealed that the practice of a specific behavior is a key factor in helping one lead a healthier and more fulfilled life.
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My intensive research, conducted over many years, has revealed that the practice of a specific behavior is a key factor in helping one lead a healthier and more fulfilled life. It’s called … self-insight. If you add the ability to communicate with your partner to this mix, you’ve got the recipe for a mutually satisfying relationship.
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Communication is great … but it can’t be effective if the message is unclear. And for clarity you need to be in touch with the inner you. Finding that person requires self-insight.
Here’s a Mind Acrobatics™ exercise designed to give you the connection with yourself that you need to improve your love life. It works equally well for men and women.
“My Ideal Mate” Part 1
Materials: Pen, paper, your favorite beverage and good music.
Time Needed: 25 Minutes.
Location: Someplace relaxing.
As with all Mind Acrobatics read through the exercise first before beginning.
- Find a comfortable spot.
- Play music and sip your drink.
- Take 7 very slow relaxing breaths.
- Close your eyes
- Picture yourself on a date having a great time.
- What are you doing?
- How do you feel?
- Keep your eyes closed for a couple of minutes, listen to the music and relax.
- Open your eyes.
- Now in stream of consciousness begin writing about the qualities you most desire in a mate. Personality, chemistry, values, sense of humor, vitality, cheerfulness, consideration… anything that comes to mind.
- Keep writing and stop when the ideas cease flowing.
Great. You’ve begun to identify the traits you most desire in a partner. Now take a few minutes to relax. Enjoy your music and beverage. Get up and take a short walk moving to the beat of the music.
Whatever makes you feel good… is good! You’re on the road to ensuring more happiness and less stress from dating.
Now let’s finish the exercise.
“My Ideal Mate” Part 2
- Sit down with your pen and paper.
- Enjoy 7 more slow breaths.
- Think about your last date.
- How well did it go?
- What was the most enjoyable moment?
- What did you enjoy least?
- Did you meet your date’s needs and vice-versa?
- On a scale of O-10 (O=terrible, 10=Fantastic) how would you rate the experience?
- Now write a letter to him/her.
- Communicate what worked, didn’t and include all your thoughts from above.
- When you’re finished stop.
What you’ve now done is both identified what you are looking for when you date as well as practiced communicating your feelings.
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Fantastic. What you’ve now done is both identified what you are looking for when you date as well as practiced communicating your feelings. These are key essentials that contribute greatly to a positive and mutually satisfying experience.
Self-knowledge, the ability to communicate your needs and the willingness to care about your partner’s desires, will serve to enhance and prolong your relationships with other people and in particular, your intimate relationships.
The rest is up to fate. But one thing for sure, you are stacking the deck in favor of success.
Top photo courtesy of author
Bottom photo—CBK Coaching