Funny video makes us think about strengthening kids early to face life’s disappointments
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This cute video may seem benign in nature and may even make us laugh, but what’s behind it can be startling for some parents and children. Rejection is not the easiest thing for anyone to deal with; however, in recent days, it seems harder and harder for our teens to manage. So many resort to negative or risky behaviors while others move towards violent fatal acts like shootings at public places.
Not every person is built to handle rejection well. In fact, because the human mind is designed to crave belonging and varying forms of intimacy, rejection in any form can be catastrophic. As early as the toddler years, we as parents need to begin thinking about how to help our children deal when their actions or behaviors aren’t accepted by others. Many of us try so hard (well intentioned of course ) to shelter our kids from things in our own lives like relationship breakups and other natural life events that we can go overboard. Children can learn a lot from seeing us bounce back from setbacks in life whether they be in intimate relationships or even career stumblings. We don’t have to go into detail about things but much thought could be put into how we can help prepare them for disappointments before it’s too late.
Building kids self confidence by showing them to embrace their value outside of other’s thoughts about them is a great start!
I don’t see what’s funny and cute about this. All I see is one very confused kid, and one scared AND confused.
Shouldn’t the parents be, I don’t know, correcting and comforting them? Instead of filming…?
Handling rejection is not easy. But it sure as hell should be easier to handle than being repeatedly violated or assaulted!!
You forgot to mention kids have to learn how to accept no means no and never try to force anything. Being “rejected” is nothing like being forced beyond your rejection and have your space violated and abused.
Story of my life…
I think women are socially conditioned to be pleasing and receptive, even when the advances are unwanted…men get so pissed off when you push them away or reject them outright…men are always trying to put their arm around me at cocktail parties or “get too friendly” (some of them conveniently forget that they are married with kids..!)
and that’s how young “no doesn’t really mean no” starts…