Science is finally getting behind what we’ve all known all along: Smart is sexy.
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I’ll readily admit that I’d f*ck someone ugly if he were super smart. When a guy can challenge me intellectually, I literally get wet. I’m not even kidding right now.
When I see a guy in glasses, sitting behind a book on the train, I don’t even see anything else. I just want to jump him because he looks smart.
I am so into smart guys. I don’t even care if he’s an assh*le, as long as he’s smart AF.
I once had a man approach me at a cafe and ask me about a Russian novel I was reading because he also loved Solzhenitsyn. Needless to say, buddy boy got my number and into my pants two weeks later. Sorry not sorry.
I am a proud sapiosexual. And I am not alone. Generation Y is teeming with us.
A sapiosexual is someone who finds sexual stimulation from the way a person’s mind works. It means you literally are attracted to intelligence. Looks take a backseat to a person’s wit.
When you think about it, why shouldn’t the brain be the thing we’re attracted to? Why would you want muscles over conversation? Why would you want looks over books?
It’s the brain that makes the man or woman. Looks fade; knowledge is forever.
Science is finally getting behind what we’ve all known all along: Smart is sexy.
According to Diana Rabb, a PhD in transpersonal psychology:
The brain is the largest sex organ. Those who admit to being sapiosexual will say that they are turned on by the brain and tend to be teased or excited by the insights of another person.
Sound familiar? If you are anything like me, all you want is a troll with an amazing, dark sense of humor, cultural knowledge and a hankering for Salinger.
Rabb continues:
As foreplay, the sapiosexual person may crave philosophical, political or psychological discussions because this turns [him or her] on.
So for us, intelligence is the way to get us hot and bothered. If a man can engage in a healthy debate with us or make us think in a different way about something, that’s the first step to sex.
For some, foreplay is a little heavy petting, but not for the sapiosexuals of the world! A little talk of politics or our favorite authors and we are going to need to get it in immediately.
Ugh, I’m kind of turning myself on right now thinking about smart men in glasses telling me something about “Heart of Darkness” and allegories.
Sapiosexuality: It is a real thing.
Smart man, strong sperm.
Researchers from the University of Mexico have found a connection between a man’s virility and his intelligence.
The study tested the sperm of 400 men after putting them through intense mental testing.
Those with higher IQs directly correlated with having healthy sperm. Therefore, smart men have the strongest sperm.
Women are attracted to intelligence because their ovaries can sense that choosing a smart mate means a better chance of having babies.
Women are all about getting the best sperm to make their babies. We’re selective like that.
If you like his brain, you’re going to like his sperm.
High intelligence, high sex drive.
Research conducted by the sex toy company Lovehoney found a direct connection with high IQ and libido.
As reported in Medical Daily, the company found that students from “elite” universities were among the most frequent toy buyers. So, it’s the smartest among us who are also the most sexual.
While the research shows the amount of sex you’re having may be inversely related to your intelligence, your sex drive is actually more rigorous.
So if you’re dating a man or woman who is especially brainy, you can probably bet he or she is going to be especially horny as well. Who doesn’t want to be having more sex?
As a highly sexual woman, I have to say this is wonderful news. Smart sex is good sex.
We feel like we have something to prove to our parents.
If you go home with someone, and he doesn’t have a lot of books, don’t f*ck ‘em! – John Waters
I see this quote everywhere these days, from tweets to Instas. This generation has rallied around intelligence.
Despite what older generations may think, Gen-Y is a generation of readers and writers. We’re thinkers and creatives more than anything else. We dream big.
We crave knowledge. We want to understand the world around us. Since we’re constantly faulted for our love of selfies, Instagram and partying, we’ve started to push back against the backlash.
We’ve started a Millennial movement around being smart. It isn’t attractive to be stupid.
We revere intelligence and see it as sexually appealing because we want to show the world how smart we actually are.
Take that, Gen-X! Take that, Mom!
We aren’t wrapped up in our gym selfies and food pictures; we’re wrapped up in Steinbeck and Socrates.
We want to show how far we’ve come cerebrally despite all of this technology and vacuous bullsh*t we’re surrounded by.
Dumb is never cute.
We’re trying to get our hands on everything we can to improve ourselves. If you’re not smart, you’re not appealing.
Your mind is the sexiest thing you have. If we can win people over with the wit of our personalities instead of our looks, we’ve emerged victorious.
We’re writing on every forum we can get our name on. We’re devouring paperbacks on the subway.
We’re looking down on anyone without a college degree, and we’re absorbing all of the information the Internet can provide for us.
We’re utilizing our resources for the greater good.
Despite how superficial and narcissistic we’re made out to be, we’re actually the most highly educated and authentic people out there.
We’re attracted to intelligence because we understand its worth. We can see past the emptiness of celebrity gossip and reality television and into what is really important.
We love with our minds first and our hearts second.
By Gigi Engle
Originally published at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission.
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Gigi Engle is a Staff Writer for Elite Daily covering Dating, Fashion and Lifestyle. Gigi earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism and English from Fordham University. Her interests include red wine and trashy romance novels.
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Awesome article Gigi. I’m a librarian and have worked in a University Library for 20 years. Believe me, librarians are actually some of the most “kinky”, “sexy” group of people. A nerdy guy reading a book always turned me on and still does. I’ve never gone for the “buff” guy.
I find myself sexually stimulated by intelligent men. I realized this when I met a man who I expected to be cute but stupid (long story why). As we were talking, I discovered that he was mostly self-educated yet had an extensive knowledge of Ancient Greek literature (my passion). He was also a science geek, but when the conversation turned towards Milton, I found that not only could he keep up, but he challenged my intellect as well. It was all I could do not to straddle his lap right then. Now I find I have no sexual attraction at… Read more »
HERE I AM!
This was like reading the errant speech of gum snapping teenager hell bent on establishing their meager independence. I’m Gen X and fail to see what on earth Gen Y or Millenial or older generations have to do with being attracted to highly intelligent people. If you remove the hipster, “you’re uber cool” beatnik revisionary reading list you’re left with no references to actual intelligence. People of intelligence have it in many different forms. A Sapiosexual is attracted to actual intellect and intelligence, and the application of it. I find an intelligent man to be mesmerizing, invigorating, and wonderful to… Read more »
and she wonders why she’s single? that might work for some or in her “mind” somewhere but it’s dollars to donuts they rarely even see the less than perfect guys, regardless of what they read on the subway. — and btw dear, if they’re reading on the subway, they don’t want to be bothered by you.
it is on the whole an incredibly sexist article, chick full of ideas she really doesn’t believe in herself.
“We look down on anyone without a college degree.” What the hell… intelligent people know not to base intelligence off of paper…
I would just think because smart people live longer, thus the strongest mates.
But what do I know.
Intelligence can be sexy. Arrogance is not. Heartfelt is sexiest. There is something much deeper and sexier than book smart. Something beyond the mind. An essence.
This article is a bit silly.
May be a false conclusion from the (perhaps biased?) sex toy company; uni students purchased more than whom and, you may find there’s a confound with money in there somewhere; if you’re at an ivy league uni, you probably have a trust fund to play with, so to speak.
Nice to know there’s a name for this though – I find Stephen Fry incredibly attractive and would marry him in an instant – gayness no obstacle!
I was wondering about that “research” too.
“As reported in Medical Daily, the company found that students from “elite” universities were among the most frequent toy buyers. So, it’s the smartest among us who are also the most sexual.”
The conclusion that these students are at about average sexuality, but might be less socially adept for human interaction and therefore more inclined to purchase toys for sexual release, actually sounds more plausible to me…
I shared it… then read some..and deleted the share. Really? Lost her with all her very vulgar opening remarks. Sorry ..I didn’t finish reading.. didn’t seem very ‘smart’. 🙁 I wanted it to be..
I was frustrated too. Then I thought about it. Sapiosexual doesn’t mean she’s smart.
Even “smart” people swear. Classism isn’t classy you know.
I’m with you Gigi. I’m glad I’m smart. Even though I’m short, bespectacled, and aging, I still get those looks when one of my new books is published. Even something as seemingly unsexy as “Male Menopause” was a hit. As to sex and smarts, we shouldn’t overdo it. I wrote a book called Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places: Overcoming Romantic and Sexual Addictions.
My wife of 35 years is even smarter and sexier than I am and our 5 children and 15 grandchildren…Don’t even get me started on them.
Where are these women? I dumb myself down in convos because it use to lead to bullying. It can be pretty difficult to find people on a similar intelligence level to really get a conversation in which I feel like I am pushing myself and learning a lot. It can be a real drag learning with others when you pick up things so much quicker AND have A.D.D making it difficult to be patient.
But I am yet to find women turned on by my intelligence, usually it’s just them asking me for help with this n that.
They exist, they’re rare, and if you’re close friends with them you probably won’t know. I have a few friends that are like this. I have a group of acquaintances that are very intelligent in their own rights. Authors, artists, teachers. Whenever she meets someone that has a high knowledge of any subject she leaps off the edge for them. She submerges herself into whatever they are into. She totally goes school girl over them.