Two spoken word poets take on the tawdry, tired, and often terrible tips for pleasing men found in women’s magazines and ask, ‘What about me? What about my body? What about my pleasure?’
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One of the comments on my recent article, “3 Things You Didn’t Know He Wanted You to Do in Bed,” was a link to this Button Poetry video. Warning: The language is extremely graphic (which makes this one NSFW), but the message is simple, potent, clear, and correct. Women matter. Women’s sexuality is not about men or what men want. Women’s sexuality belongs to women.
Photo—Button Poetry/YouTube
Strong words…not palatable for some ears….
Thus piece reminds me of some video I saw recently about a couple dressed in nude-colored body stockings trying to re-enact some ridiculous Kama Sutra-like sex poses from an article in Cosmo magazine…they did it outdoors in front of a big fountain….it was weird and sort of acrobatic and cringe-worthy….and kinda funny when tourists took pictures with their cameras….I guess it you already perform gymnastic routines in Cirque du Soleil, those sort of poses are probably like second nature….but for the rest of us….I dunno…
8ball … that’s exactly what I thought. In both cases it’s what it’s all about … pleasing and giving all to the other person.
Of course there’s still the argument (which I have read several times on other websites) that this equal treatment of the sexes is really just another proof of misogyny: Because, it is argued, men want to please their partners in order to feel like a superior lover and a stud, which makes it a narcissist and dominant act, while women do it out of love and the honest desire to be nice.
What do you make of that?
And sex advice to men is about… what exactly?
About getting what you want. Many times it CAN be about the other person as well… but many, many times it’s about how to get that threesome (with another woman, of course) or more blowjobs (as if women didn’t give more than receive anyways). The focus on their own pleasure happens much more than when it comes to sex advice to women.
Look at porn, and you will see the same pattern.
” more blowjobs (as if women didn’t give more than receive anyways)”
We need to swap black books. We’re obviously dating a very different set of women.
I’m joking about the black books. I don’t have a black book, but nevertheless your experiences are very different from mine.