What should you do the next time a girl tells you she has a boyfriend?
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By Leandre Low
Here’s the scenario: You’re at the bar, and you think you just caught that cute blonde checking you out. You make your way over to her and introduce yourself and everything’s going well, until she drops the bomb — “I have a boyfriend.” It’s a classic line, and you might interpret it in many different ways, but which way is the right way?
First things first, it’s time to forget about this girl. She might have different reasons to tell you she’s not single, but none of them mean you’re getting lucky. This isn’t a test to see how hard she wants you to work to ask her out, it just means she’s not interested in a romantic encounter.
She’s either trying to subtly tell you to get on your way, or indicating that she’s just looking for a friend. If that’s OK with you, patience might pay off. If you stay polite and confident, she just might want to introduce you to one of her single friends. Otherwise, be nice, wish her a nice evening, and be on your way.
Sorry, you’re going to have to do way better than this before you convince me. In almost all new encounters, the boyfriend who isn’t in the room is a social device, brought out for any number of reasons. That has been the experience of me and most men who have paid attention to these things. Also, if you are going to tackle this subject, you should address the opposite, but just as common phenomenon: when she really does have a boyfriend but doesn’t tell you.
Forgive me for saying this but this is among the most dumbest advice I could have ever read.
This does not make any sense at all.
I do not think you should so easily forget about her
She may be in need of a new boyfriend change and you more than likely will be it.
I also hope that the woman who posted this also believes in white women being with black men.
Just for clarification.
I was referring to the woman who posted the article and indeed the video as well.
Just thought I would make this clear.
If she has a boyfriend then it’s time to consider her as a human rather than a “target for fucking” The opposite sex can be quite enjoyable outside of a sexual and or romantic relationship. So if she has a boyfriend and is not trying to get away from you, a meaningful, or at least fun and interesting non erotic interaction would be a great idea. I have a boyfriend, I consider him a life partner, and we are monogamous. It is offensive to me and a complete deal and friendship breaker when a “friend” or casual acquaintance suggests that… Read more »
I agree that there is a great deal of disrespect when there is a man whom you consider a casual acquaintance wanting you for physical relations-let’s just put it that way. However, to speak of someone being a “lifepartner” does not communicate anything sensible in the way you have used it: 1. What guarantee do you have with this person that later on they will not fail you? Some people only look at the moment while forgetting there is such a thing as a “later on” Absolutely None and Zero Guarantee do you have with this person from my viewpoint… Read more »
I would submit that some women would just put that out there so that you know not to expect a hookup. If you’re clearly making her uncomfortable then yes, leave her be. If you’re not sure, ask if she’s uncomfortable. Other wise, why not have a conversation with her? Does having a boyfriend forever bar this woman from having conversations with interesting people just because they happen to be members of the opposite sex? If you met a dude at the bar and started a conversation and he casually mentioned that he has a girlfriend, would you just walk away?… Read more »
I reckon it’s worth asking another question … even if just for laughs.
‘I’m cool with that. Are you guys in an open relationship?’
Or ‘And I’ve got a girlfriend … we could have an affair?’
Or ‘So have I. I’ve never felt this way about a woman before…’
Or, y’know, she actually does have a boyfriend. Not your business and not up to you to determine if she’s telling you the truth. She doesn’t owe you anything. Be friendly and respectful and move along.
I think Dr. Nerdlove’s story on this is more interesting: http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2014/08/anatomy-lesson-persistence-pays/
She tells you she has a bf so you will leave her the hell alone. Most times she doesn’t, but our feelings don’t matter to guys so rejection for any other reason tends not to work so we pull the bf line.
Not me. If you’re an ugly/old dude trying to get at me I’ll be clear, say no, & tell you to back the eff off me. I usually need to do this for friends who can’t seem to be able to tell these sexually aggressive aholes to go away.
“If you’re an ugly…”
Haha. Funny. Why don’t you go without makeup, and see how many times you get approached.
Guys are desperate. I get hit on with out make up and in my grub clothes. I know I am substantially less attractive without make up on. My privilege is my struggle. How ironic. haha
Correction: not all guys are desperate. Some just don’t care about make up.
Not much of an article.
It’s very short, but still something a few men I’ve encountered should read and take seriously.