When working through conflict, does saying “I’m sorry” really work?
In my experience, no. Most of the time it is used as a way to “hurry up” and move on. Sure, there is a place for a genuine apology, but I don’t recommend any apology until you’ve first acknowledged where you messed up or caused harm.
The video demonstrates this.
As you can see, a true repair isn’t just about an apology. It’s about helping the other person see that we also see what we did or did not do.
Give it a shot in your relationship and leave a comment below if you notice a shift.
Originally published at jaysongaddis.com.