Facebook is a paradise for narcissists. Dr. Sylvia Gearing shows us how to spot them. Oops!—am I one?
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I have to admit, this video caused me to examine my own posting practices on Facebook pretty carefully. Is everything I post about me? No. Am I seeking love and adoration, recognition, and instant gratification? Sometimes. Do I have friends I mirror with to create mutual praise feedback loops? The mirroring happens sometimes, but it’s not a conscious practice. I often promote other people’s work (though perhaps not often enough in comparison to my own), and I definitely don’t talk about myself endlessly or post pictures of my biceps or non-existent six-pack. Still, Dr. Gearing offers excellent food for thought about how narcissistic we all can be on Facebook.
Photo—Dr. Sylvia Gearing Counseling/YouTube
It is hilarious that so many narcissists attacked this video. If you are offended in any way about it, it tells more about you than you realize. This woman never said “facebook user=narcissist”. Obviously having a facebook profile and posting pictures isn’t bad or makes you a narcissist. Certain behaviours though can be very telling, and that is what this is about. And i can confirm this from my personal experience, this video is 100% spot on. But narcissists gonna hate.
A link on the Twitter account called AfterNarcAbuse led me to this video, which is a bunch of crap. My spouse follows this site, so anyone that knows her will conclude that her marriage partner is a narcissist. This woman ends this judgmental assed video with an invitation to follow her and her blog. Hmmm… And by the way, I don’t post on Facebook what I’m eating for dinner or those trite “inspirational” memes. I usually post news articles of some note. I rarely do selfies, except as my profile picture. And what humans don’t “spin” to make themselves look… Read more »
Hmmm…one point I want to argue is yes, we DO care what our friends are doing. Why the hell else are we active FB users (if we are?) I keep my friendslist to people I actually KNOW in person, many of whom I’m in far physical distance from. Because of FB, I know the highlights (and sometimes, challenges) of their lives and get to watch their children grow up…it’s a wonderful medium for people who actually care about what/how their actual friends are doing but don’t get to see or chat with often. That being said one can simply choose… Read more »
This woman seems Lolly lonelu and alone. But being hyper academic about a mere interesting social phenomena is harshly judgemental and biased
“Females use visual titillation,”??? I fear misogynistic women with doctorates a lot more than I fear every day, garden-variety narcissists. It’s JUST FACEBOOK. It’s a stage we all grow out of. But misogyny coming from women with doctorates is an active evil.
She speaks the truth. Usually people who deny it are the ones doing it or you’re blind. Most of the victoria secret models fit under this category if you look at their instagram etc. of course people will fail to notice they’re narcissist and the models get away with posting tons of selfies or whatever because they know they have the body and are in the business, so it LOOKS okay…but it’s not. – See more at: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/spot-narcissist-facebook-fiff/comment-page-1/#comment-1688875
She speaks the truth. Usually people who deny it are the ones doing it or your just blind. All the victoria models fit under this category if you look at their instagram etc. of course people will fail to notice they’re narcissist and the models get away with posting tons of selfies or whatever because they know they have the body and are in the business, so it LOOKS okay…but it’s not.
Those are models and yes obviously they are narcissistic. But this woman is basically saying anybody that posts anything about their life is a narcissist and to get a life. Bore off! Moths will attack bright lights, as they say! She needs to get a life!
All I sense from this is a bitter, nasty judgemental fool who probaly has none of her own confidence so has to shoot down that of others. What a hypocrite…
I find the entire video an extremely judgmental take on what people do. While I agree that not everybody needs to know about what you ate for dinner or what you wore to the bathroom, I find the last part where she demarcates between male and female narcissists as completely misogynist bull crap. As a person she herself appears so high up on the levels, as if she is looking down at the poor mortals who have succumbed to facebook. Thank you very much.
I watched this and got ANGRY. As a victim of a narcissistic sociopath I could see him using this video to gaslight and triangulate against ME. I post frequently and use FB to connect with others who are like minded (very few … I’m a weirdo … not a narcissist). He on the other hand does not use social media and prefers to remain “covert”. I have over 1000 friends because I’m a dj and yes, I have met all but 5 people on my friends list in person … but concede that all of my relationships are superficial …… Read more »
hit me up. for some real coversations. peace
Can’t tell is this is supposed to be satire or not…