Jed Diamond reviews the strongest articles on Men Alive from this year.
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I write about what moves me, what I’m passionate about, what I’m trying to figure out, and what people tell me they want to learn. This has been an interesting year, full of challenges, both personal and professional. I’m dealing with the stresses of a close relative and a close relative in jail facing serious charges. My wife, Carlin, and I have had to face a number of health challenges, but feel we’re on top of things for now. We completed a 25 year cycle living off the grid in the hills outside of Willits and are now beginning a new cycle of our lives living in town.
Through it all I’ve continued my writing. I try and write at least one article each week. For those who are not yet on our mailing list to learn about my latest articles and other news of interest, you can do so here: http://menalive.com/email-newsletter/.
These are the 10 articles that I’ve felt the strongest about this year. It would please me if you’d look them over and let me know what you think. If you had to pick one that you feel resonated most for you, which one would it be? You can drop me a note at [email protected] (if you’re writing for the first time be sure and respond to my spamarrest filter so I get your email).
The 5 Stages of Love and Why Too Many Stop at Stage 3.
Ever since my second marriage ended in divorce, I’ve been determined to learn more about the elements of real, lasting love and how to achieve them. Before I met Carlin I thought I had learned a lot. But being together now for 36 years, I feel we’ve learned some of the secrets. We learned to deal with my depression and bipolar disorder and how to get through the difficult incompatibilities of stage 3.
How Do Good Men and Good Women Respond to the Latest Violent Killings?
We are all confronted with violence in the world. I think the media tends to focus our attention on fear, rather than on what we can really do to be safe. I’ve tried to offer a more helpful and healthful perspective.
The Only Man in the Room: What’s Keeping Men From the Life-Preserving Benefits in Women’s World?
Women have entered “men’s world” and are rising in politics and breaking through the glass ceilings. They still have a long way to go, but men have an even longer way to go in breaking into the heal-promoting world of women. I’m a believer in equality and I want to go where I can have the most fun and stay healthy and joyful. That’s often been in “women’s world.”
The One Thing That Will Either Make or Break Your Relationship
Let’s face it, being in a relationship isn’t always easy. We strive for love, but often feel wounded and alone. We often focus on the big problems that can undermine a relationship—sexual betrayal, abuse, neglect, or abandonment, but it’s often the little things that can make or break a marriage.
How Childhood Trauma Can Wreck Your Relationship And What You Can Do to Heal
I’ve come to recognize that childhood trauma and wounding are nearly universal in today’s world. We’ve all been wounded and those wounds often go unhealed and later undermine our adult relationships. Understanding our wounding and learning to heal is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and our partner.
Independence Day and The Birth of Civ 2
It’s clear to many that our present civilization with its emphasis on endless growth cannot survive. We live on a finite planet and we cannot continue to use the earth’s resources and think we can live well forever. Fortunately there is a new movement afoot that can get us back on a healthy and sustainable path. It’s called Civilization 2 (Civ 2). You are welcome to join with us.
What I Learned From Feminism: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
I’ve learned that feminism isn’t only for women. I consider myself a feminist, which to me means that we all have a feminine as well as a masculine side to us. I also believe that men and women have real differences in brain chemistry, hormones, and history. We all need to take a deeper look at feminism and recognize its shadow as well as its light.
Eight Little Known Secrets About Being a Man
We are all interested in what it means to be a man, whether we’re male or female. I’ve spent a lifetime exploring sex, gender, and health and I’ve developed some clear ideas about the core secrets that most people don’t know about.
The One Secret For Staying In Love Forever
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a man or woman say, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore. It is one of the reason’s many marriages end. Most of us believe that we can’t stay “in love” forever. We accept that it is an early stage and we must settle for a deeper love through time. But I believe that deep, crazy, wonderful, romantic love doesn’t have to end and there are ways to stay in love forever.
50 Years Helping Men and the Families Who Love Them: I’d Like You to Join Me
My father’s suicide attempt when I was 5 years old launched me on a life-long journey to understand what happened to him, whether it would happen to me and how I could help prevent it from happening to other families. This is my 50th year working to fulfill that commitment I made to myself, my family, and the larger community we all share. I’d like those who resonate with this work to join me.
I couldn’t resist. Here’s one more bonus (that actually contains another bonus within it:
The 5 Most Important Things That Make A Man Feel Loved
Love really does make the world go round. But love isn’t simple and love is definitely not always easy. We often think of love as the domain of women and romance something you read about in women’s magazines. But men need love just as much as women and it can be a mystery to get clear about how to get it and how to give it. Here are some things to consider.
Again, I look forward to your comments. I would very much like it if you let me know which one of these articles resonates most with you. You can drop me a note at [email protected] (if you’re writing for the first time be sure and respond to my spamarrest filter so I get your email). And if you’d like to be on my mailing list and receive more of my writings, just sign up here, http://menalive.com/email-newsletter/. You can easily unsubscribe whenever you want.
Originally posted on MenAlive. Reprinted with permission.
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