The inside scoop on how to find a girlfriend for a meaningful relationship
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If your only requirement for dating is that you’re spending time with a beautiful woman wearing revealing clothes, think again. Now is the time to find the qualities you care about so that one day you might find a woman you’d like to keep.
Here are seven qualities to think about as you date:
1. Is she sexy?
Sexy is more than showing skin or dressing a certain way. Does she turn you on? Whether it’s her cleavage or her great legs, hanging with a woman you find sexy will make you feel more alive.
2. Is she attractive?
There is nothing more attractive than a woman who is comfortable in her skin. Attraction is a varied combination of confidence, personality, allure, charm, style, and beauty. If you’re holding out for a certain type rather than considering all sides of attraction, you may find yourself with the wrong woman again and again.
3. Is she fun?
Life can be filled with drudgery, dating shouldn’t be. A fun woman can have a good time riding the subway to work or throwing snowballs with the neighbor’s kids. If you find a woman with the flexibility to find the joy in life, you might want to keep her.
4. Is she worldly?
Finding a woman who is willing to lead a varied life will help keep your relationship exciting. Whether she carries a Frisbee around for impromptu games or visits obscure art galleries, be sure to note how large her life is. A worldly woman will have great stories to tell, things to do, and people for you to meet.
5. Is she smart?
Wouldn’t it be amazing to find a woman who is smart about money, cooking, dealing with difficult people, and loving you? Intelligent woman know how to use their smarts to enhance all of their relationships.
6. Is she passionate?
Is she passionate about gardening, or obscure movie directors, or collecting random pieces of old silver, or football? If she gets excited by her interests, it’s more likely that one day she’ll become passionate about you and your interests.
7. Is she crazy about you?
Gone are the days when you spend time with a woman who hates everything about you and treats you like a conversion project. Does she shower you with respect? Is she enthusiastic about your time together? Is she kind to your family and friends? Your next girlfriend should be crazy about you.
Forget about spending time with the wrong person. Find yourself a balanced girlfriend who has the qualities you care about.
Feel free to add qualities that didn’t make the list in the comments below.
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Sadly most of the above qualities were met but I was too blind to recognized them back then. Opportunity just slipped away..
Wow love the image of a couple that is in traditional African clothing. Reason number one million and 1 that I love this site! It’s so rare to see an image like this out side of media specifically about African couples. Thank you for being pro-active about reflecting all couples.
I agree, Stella. Such a cool pic.
“Smart about cooking”? What?
Mathilda, I’m not sure if you like to order take out meals in your relationships, or if you find my word choice awkward. I do have a habit of including cooking under smarts. I’ve taught many men and woman how to cook smarter, and show their smarts in the kitchen. Whether it’s trying a new dish or pairing interesting choices for a meal — it takes brain work to get there.
Thank you for telling us what it is we want. We would have never guessed! There is one item conspicuously missing from this list: Confidence! The reason I call it conspicuous is that on the lists of requirements men are supposed to fulfil in order to deserve a partner, or which woman allegedly demand from them (of which there have been quite a few on this website), confidence always takes a prominent position. It’s the patriarchal, toxic narrative, isn’t it? A man must rescue a woman from the evil world and from herself, tell her she’s beautiful to help with… Read more »
I agree with you, Theorema, that confidence is an important quality. In this article, I’ve included it as part of attraction–I think you’re right. Woman find confidence attractive in men, and men find confidence attractive in woman.