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About Ahmad Cheers

My name is Ahmad Cheers and I'm a 22 year old Philosophy major. I'm interested in finding interest in everything and I love to document my perspective. You can read more at my tumblr, or follow me on twitter @thedarkerbrotha.


  1. I love this piece and the issues and insights you raised. But Black clubs do the same filtering out for clothing so I think this is more of a young vs. old issue.

  2. I think you have raised the very important topic here. Herd mentality that is; safety in numbers. I don’t know whether picking your battles carefully is the appropriate terminology here but I think there are times where sticking up for someone in a situation like that has any value apart from just protecting the oppressor and getting them to a safe place. If you had stood up and started telling the crowd to not make homosexual remarks, I imagine firstly you would have been labelled a homosexual as well. When people are out and especially if they are drunk, they act out in their most primal ways, in the case of men (heterosexual) they are not going to let conscience decide how they should act. They will let their alcohol fueled testosterone flushed state decide how they react to the situation.

    No matter how civilized our minds become, our bodies and the chemicals that flush them have a long way to catch up with our ideas and agreed social norms for the sake of social order. We need to evolve soon or else our minds will have no bearing on our bodies and our bodies are/will be an even more unfit system to deal with the things we fight for in the name of freedom and peace.

  3. I’m kind of curious as to what city you live in where this stuff happens? The dress code thing I sort of understand. If they use it to just kick black people out of the bar, that’s ridiculous, but frankly if it’s just a dress code then that’s not problematic. Bars want to attract certain people, and despite the fact that it’s couched in certain uncomfortable truths about race, some bars don’t want people who look like wanna-be gangsters in their bar (white, black, or otherwise). Oftentimes this is because people who dress like gangsters usually try to act like them too, and bring problems with them. If they happen to be black, then it makes people uncomfortable to think about it, but it’s still true.

    It’s an unfortunate fact, but my white friends and I stepped into a bar with a majority of black people dressed in “wanna be gangster” clothes and we walked right back out. I wouldn’t care if the bar was majority black, but you can tell a lot about a person by the way they choose to represent themselves (via clothes) to other people. I discriminate against white people who dress like skaters, or goths, or whatever else all the time as well.

    As far as the homosexual couple, I’m curious as to what city in America would actually act disgusted by that. I live in the midwest, and here there are undoubtedly people in the suburbs who might be shocked by a display like that, but in the city where I go out at night no one could care less. Maybe some drunk idiot would make jokes about it, but then that same person might joke about a hysterical female or a hysterical straight man too. I can’t help but feel like you were being overly sensitive to the situation, especially since you describe yourself as drinking your shame away and mindlessly dancing. Something just seems off about the way you told the story.

    Kind of reminds me of my highly socially anxious days when I was younger. I used to actually think people were giving me dirty looks when I was talking to them because I was sure that everyone was judging me negatively. After a while I realized this was just my perspective and I was reading too much into things, and lo and behold I grew a lot more confident. Stupid anecdote, I know, but the point is your assumptions can change your perception of other people and I think that might be what happened here.

  4. gay/straight it doesn’t matter. It’s just simply tacky to get into a screaming fit with your significant other in public and tacky to engage in romantic embraces in front of an audience.

    • I think it’s too slating to call an argument that happens to be in public as ‘tacky’. If you look at someone fighting in public and think whatever, go to your house and fight there, there more your inability to deal with the fact that other human beings occupy the same space as you and yes it would be advisable not to disrupt other people’s evening, it is too stunted a society that deems sometimes uncontrollable human emotions that can’t be contained till you get home. I would rather feel a bit upset for the couple fighting rather than think, oh whatever take your dirty laundry home!

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