The Myth of One-Size-Fits-All Sex

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About Robert Reece

Robert Reece is from Leland, MS and received his BA and MA degrees from The University of Mississippi. He is now a PhD student in sociology at Duke University where he studies race and racism and contracts as a NPO researcher. He blogs at Still Furious and Still Brave and tweets at @PhuzzieSlippers.


  1. So, how does one encourage their partner to learn to be a better lover? when attempts at demonstration have been rejected?

    • I don’t think you can (or should, but that’s another issue) encourage anyone to do or learn anything WRT lovemaking, unless they are willing and able to do so.
      Unfortunately, I think that we often are too quick to blame the unwillingness on the unwilling person’s partner.

  2. ah there’s no blame. Just trying to figure out a way to ease my partner thru his inhibitions…

  3. Sexual prowess is something that you learn together…some have that initial WOW factor, but every partner has their own wants, needs, likes and dislikes. If you don’t ask and can’t read their reactions, you will never know…so ask if you aren’t sure. Make it an adventure to pleasure…


    If you aren’t having fun, you’re doing it wrong!!


  4. Its not a myth. Its reality. There are fewer sexually desirable men than women.


  1. [...] As soon as I think I have a handle on her likes, her preferences, her habits, something new emerges from somewhere deep within her making all previous knowledge almost null and void. She is my magical other, a woman who defies any container that she tries to construct in terms of self-definition. Since I find myself constantly changing, we continually surprise each other. But all of that said, she does wonder about my masculinity, thinking I should know better how to relate as a man to her as a woman. “Because sexual proficiency is a core tenet of masculinity we are expected to already know how to have sex well, and there is stigma around asking our partners if there are ways we can improve our performance. We neglect to ask if there are specific things that we may be doing wrong or that our partner may prefer differently.” (Robert Reece, Good Men Project, December 20, 2012) [...]

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