The Long and Righteous Road

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About Mark Sherman

Mark Sherman is editor of the Boys Initiative blog (, and also writes one for Psychology Today (Real Men Don’t Write Blogs). He received his Ph.D. in psychology at Harvard, and has taught, researched, and written on gender issues since coauthoring Afterplay: A Key to Intimacy in 1979. Having three sons and four grandsons, he is especially interested in how boys and young men are doing both in and outside of school.


  1. Mark, thank you for this article.
    Lately I’ve become more skeptical and doubtful about human nature. And while I have some good reasons for thinking that way, it makes me easily forget the good and positive.
    Your article reminds me (us) that, in the long run, the world tends to become a better place.
    Thanks for sustaining hope. :)

  2. This was absolutely wonderful and I fully believe this too.

    Frankly, it becomes frustrating sometimes to try and work with others who are fighting against oppression or for social justice, because a lot of them are impatient with how slow things are. For some, even the smallest sign of progress isn’t good enough.

    The line “But it is not a “competition of miseries,” an expression I once heard an African-American woman use on a television discussion years ago. The fact is that sexism still exists and so does racism. But things continue to change for the better. That arc does bend toward justice.” is a prime example of this. Competition of miseries (or the Oppression Olympics) becomes commonplace, because it seems difficult when one marginalized group sees progress but none or little in others. And if one points out the positive progress that has been made, they are quick to dismiss it and bring the subject back towards the negative.

    In my humble opinion, the constant focus on the negatives while dismissing the positives is causing divisions amongst those who should be working together towards the same fights.

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