The sex, well, it just isn’t that good. How do I tell her? Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert has some delicious ideas…
Question: I have to be honest…the sex just isn’t good. How do I tell my girl that? How do we fix it?
Answer: What a fun problem! Love it!
So it could be a few things… first just a lack of chemistry that you can’t change or fix, just take a deep breath and let it NOT be there. Bless and release and move on.
Next it could be that things have become predictable and you need to spice things up, focus on giving more, be willing to ask for more/different. A great classy sexy hot DVD that I promote to my clients is found at AllanaPratt.com/steamy-sex. I think there are 7? 9? videos… that’s at least a week of nightly fun 😉
And Intimate Conversations LIVE (that’s my weekly radio show) Guest Dr. Sadie has this great book to bring her pleasure… found at AllanaPratt.com/ticklekitty. It’s all about her clitoris. Happy clitoris, happy woman 😉
Otherwise it’s a deeper fix… perhaps either of you aren’t present, too focused with work, thinking about the kids, not really focused on the moment, on touch, on sensation, on feeling, on pleasure. Perhaps being that intimate with each other triggers fears of rejection or compromising who you are to please the other, making it mechanical, not sensual.
It could be shame. It could be that someone said something and the other shut down… too slutty, too horny, too loud, too hard, too slow… to something! And it may not even be between the two of you, but simply coming up from a past wound to be healed now. Sometimes a past pregnancy can make a woman freaked out and in her head. Sometimes shame about an STD completely extinguishes a person’s freedom to be themselves. Perhaps one or both of you is not fully self expressed, doesn’t feel safe to be themselves and this withholding is making it boring.
Again, what a great problem to have! Through some deep yet powerful healing sessions with me, shame from way back when can be dissolved into nothing, and your true authentic sacred erotic nature can emerge… then GAME ON! You two can go shopping for toys, lingerie, read erotic literature, explore each other’s bodies for hours… days! Please contact me if the deep wound is what’s going on… as it doesn’t go away, it only grows and gets worse until you face it.
I am honored to be the safe space to heal many varieties of shame and set free the beautiful gifts of having life force sexual energy surging through our lives from the bedroom to the boardroom… honestly when we’re open vessels for LIFE to flow through us, our creative potentials soar in every arena.
Contact my [email protected] to book a strategy session to see if you’re a fit for my program and if you’d like to get to know me better first, download my complementary report and video series… www.GetHerToSayYes.com
Huge love to you, and may his New Year be your most rapturous sex yet! Allana
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Yes, you need to discover ways to get intimate and beat your anxiety about rejection. After all, sex is the most beautiful experience of life and you must enjoy every bit of it. Toss your worries aside and get into the game!