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Pittsburgh native Damon Young (aka “The Champ”) is the co-founder of VerySmartBrothas.com. Their first book Your Degrees Won’t Keep You Warm At Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide To Dating, Mating and Fighting Crime is available at Amazon.com

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  1. Good article here. Though: “Magnum condoms really aren’t any bigger than regular ones….” isn’t true, not by a long shot. I can tell you from personal experience. Plus, there is an obvious comfort difference between Magnum XLs and regular Magnums. So the jump from regular to Magnum, from an outsider’s perspective (not necessarily you), has gotta change. I mean, have you tried lifestyles cuz? Naw, that ain’t flyin over here.

  2. Mike,

    Thanks for compliment.

    And, um, here’s a quote straight from the horse’s mouth about Magnums and regular condoms.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/28/business/media/28adco.html?scp=1&sq=condom&st=cse

    The Magnum brand is viewed as a positive lifestyle badge and positive symbol, Mr. Daniels (vice president of marketing at trojan) said. And people are proud to show they have a Magnum condom the large size really connotes a sense of above-average prowess, let’s call it.

    For all the connotations, however, it turns out that Magnum is not so large. It is the same length as standard condoms, with the same circumference at its base, Mr. Daniels said. Some people feel more comfortable with that width, but you dont have to be an overly endowed man to use a Magnum and enjoy it, he added.

    (btw, I agree that Lifestyles’ suck)

  3. I feel like I’m a dog and my owner just yelled at me for getting into the trash.

    I’m just going to sit in the corner and hang my head in shame.

  4. Anthony Zarat says:

    HIV deaths in 2012 were 17,000. This is less than the number of suicide or automobile accident deaths (31,289 suicide deaths, 42,643 automobile accident fatalities). It is both easier and more efffective to wear a seat belt, than a condom.

    In contrast, 2 million children were legally taken from their fathers in 2012. This is the best reason to fasten the condom :)

    • wet_suit_one says:

      Amen brother. My greatest fear!

      Thankfully, no kids to be taken away. I don’t use protection as I’m in a monogamous long term relationship. I also don’t worry too much about unplanned pregnancy due to other issues (It’s both good and bad). So while I’m well educated about all these things, I don’t follow any of them, because the usual rules don’t apply (except if she’s cheating on me ’cause I know I ain’t cheatin’ on her).

      However, back in the wild and woolly days of cavorting with the pro’s, condoms were a must and man almighty, those ladies knew their sexual health business (and other business as well) like no one else. Quite honestly (and there’s at least one study to back this up somewhere like here: http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/06/23/us-sex-diseases-swingers-idUSTRE65M6NX20100623 ), if you want to have safe sex as a male, a pro with a good reputation is the way to go. Fun, safe and a sure thing.

      Anyways… I digress.

  5. loved it the 1st time i read it.
    still do.

  6. Anasthasia says:

    I like Lifestyles. Ultra thin. Have to order online b/c I can’t find in store anymore.

  7. Damn that’s a lot of uneducated f@cking you’ll are doing…

  8. wellokaythen says:

    ‘Twas ever thus.

    We have more than enough information out there to make responsible decisions about sex. (Unless you’re a teenager in some parts of the country.) We all do things that we KNOW are stupid or wrong and we do them anyway. More knowledge, more information, more education can only take us so far. Every society is like that – everyone does things they know are wrong or unhealthy but they do them anyway.

    For example, I can’t imagine anyone starts smoking today DOESN’T know that smoking is bad for your health. It’s not a lack of information. We could put photos of diseased lungs on the cigarette packs and put in big letters “this will kill you,” and people would still take up smoking.

  9. This is not surprising. There have been many scientific studies (if I had more time here at work, I’d look some of them up) indicating that love and pre-sex hormones make us stupid.

    It’s not merely the “hey, I could get some here, but I don’t have a condom with me… what the hell, just this once, because I don’t want to let this opportunity slip away” aspect, we actually, in scientifically measurable ways, lose common sense and IQ points, which lead us to do stupid things like assume that the person we’re with COULDN’T be one of the ones who actually has any of the nasty diseases, and that WE won’t be the unlucky ones to conceive a child.

    This is one of the things I try to teach my children, that it’s not just a matter of KNOWING the right thing to do, it’s a matter of making it extremely easy TO do, because in the heat of battle (so to speak), we already have physiology working against us (not to mention the biological urge to reproduce and the fact that it just feels better without a condom), we don’t need any extra reasons why this time is the time we should do without.

  10. Here is a great guide to STD’s http://postmasculine.com/std-guide

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