When your life feels blah and empty of energy, Jordan Kozey has three ways to get you ‘pickin’ up good vibrations’ again.
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I’m pickin’ up good vibrations
She’s giving me excitations
I’m pickin’ up good vibrations (Oom bop, bop, good vibrations)
—The Beach Boys, Good Vibrations
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If you’re reading this, you’re probably eager to get past the preamble and find out now what these thoughts are that will supercharge your mood and make life feel happy again. So here they are, without introduction.
1. What would I be doing if instead of stoking sexual fire and getting moist with a lover, I was committing that very same act with life itself?
Think about it. Get on top or receive from underneath. During our everyday life, interactions, and engagements, the magmatic waters are constantly flowing, and the chamber of magic is upstairs in our thoughts. Thoughts are like hydroelectric dams—I’m serious. Stop the flow long enough on one and that thought will amplify. This is not some new age secret affair. One need only start worrying … and the result is foreseeable. As your thought amplifies with this arousing energy, it kicks up the waves around you, and what I have found, through years of working with clients and studying this process myself, is that thoughts eventually become people. Yes, I just said that. If you tend to think poorly about yourself, guess what—your next partner will be there to show you just what a wretch you are. Your boss will overlook your strengths. Conversely, if your lust pours into that book you are writing, people start showing up and giving you characters and situations to write about. The ardor you put into a pair of weights as your lift them gives you that extra rep and respect at the gym.
When I make love to life I throw on the vibration I feel when I’m engaged in sex.
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When I make love to life I throw on the vibration I feel when I’m engaged in sex. I let it dance through my fingers while typing this article. I feel the excitement in my mind as endorphins playfully glisten the air around me. “You like that?” “Oh yeah” I say to the salad I chop for dinner. So, foreplay your drive to work. Massage that pavement with your feet. Penetrate your conversations as you breath them in. Receive the gifts from another with good appetite. Kiss a difficult conversation. While doing these things, use that good energy to seed thoughts that will grow into the people of your dreams. Relationships are the essence of life.
2. Everything is currency. Compound interest is exactly what you should be doing with your emotions, thoughts, dreams, and your money (the way the credit card companies are doing it to you).
I’m going to preach. That Old Proverbial Rabbi had a way with words, when he said, “Whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them.” (Matthew, 13:12) Say you’ve only got a few dollars to your name. Well, sad to say, but it’s going leave you quick quickly as the World consumes it in exchange for survival and/or the ability to cope.
Say you have a few million dollars. The world is going keep giving to you in interest and opportunity (if you’re not stupid and blow it all). So if you’ve been meaning to write that book or song, open that business, find that love of your life, or show yourself, once and for all, that you can really love you—your deposits of time and intention work no less effectively than that millionaire’s bank account, or that savings plan your parents or someone told you to start feeding when you were young. Thus, the currency you do not invest will be taken from you and given to someone else. Yet the investment you continually feed promises to return more of what you do, and anything, absolutely everything, is currency. Think about it, and try it while having sex (see number 1. above) for a double pulse.
Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it … he who doesn’t … pays it. —Albert Einstein
3. Your soul is a childlike version of yourself in a field of wildflowers, heroic quests, and sublime romances, waiting for the right inheritance of hormones and brain size to turn that field into life.
It’s hard to let this kid down, seriously. While you are picturing your soul in this field, the motivation to be who you really are surfaces. Upon opening our eyes, one begins to curse the cubicle surrounding them. Clouds roll by outside the window and a sudden urge to paint them arrives from seemingly nowhere. A stranger passes us along the roadside and a conversation opens our heart. The urge to create magnifies, then sours any activity that takes the smile off that kid’s face or hurts the field he stands in. That child’s presence pollenates the field (see thought number 1.), and his or her numerous thoughts of living joyfully are an investment toward your best life possible (see number 2.). Let us spend some more time there, shall we?
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This post is republished on Medium.
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