After realizing I was using women to fill an internal void, I gave them up completely and discovered three surprises about myself.
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Not long ago, I began to see how I was mostly using women as a way to feel better about myself. Not just sexually, but in all kinds of ways. I was single and carrying the belief that no women = no worth. Because of that belief, I was leaking my energy everywhere in the hopes of just being seen by an attractive woman.
LOW Syndrome – Lack Of Woman Syndrome, an imaginary disease borne of actual life circumstances – combined with the fear of rejection is a nasty mix! This debilitating brew had me spending so much time engaging in impotent coping behaviors: urgent online dating, empty flirting, medicinal masturbation, massive chocolate consumption and more.
However, the biggest cost of imagined LOW-Syndrome reveals itself in the five to seven cumulative years I have spent in relationships that weren’t satisfying, thriving, or even healthy (i.e. totally toxic), simply because they gave me some semblance of identity, validation and self-worth, even though I often felt like shit … or worse, empty.
Well, I finally had enough of my insanity. I was feeling ridiculous and exhausted, and I wanted my life back.
So I decided to try and disrupt these patterns by quitting women cold-turkey for 30 Days.
This video is a short presentation about what happened, and what I discovered about myself.
A real man doesn’t base his worth on a woman! A woman cannot make you any more masculine as women are inherently feminine. Many heterosexual men make that mistake of thinking the more women they can get, the more their masculine bona fides are strengthened. Same thing goes for women!
Indeed. Well said!
Pretty amazing isn’t it? Try it for a year. That’s about how long it took for everything to kick in for me.
30 Days was long enough to get the medicine I needed.