Ross Rosenberg, author of ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome,’ explains the childhood origins of pathological narcissism.
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When we can’t handle something and it’s too horrible, we detach, we disconnect, we disassociate, or we repress it. This early childhood experience of being abused, neglected, and feeling unloved is relegated to the unconscious, locked behind iron walls of denial to resist any and all attempts at recovery, only breaking through with bouts of narcissistic rage.
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Hi Ross
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May I ask if you please take a look at another article on GMP right now “in modern relationships we cheat every single day”.
A man asked us for advice and I told him to find you here .
I was with a narcissistic man for 7 years. Though he spoke of his mother often, his reluctance for me to meet her was obvious. It took years before it happened. Once I met her, I understood why. It was the most uncomfortable, horrifying and hateful 4 hours of my life. She was clearly the Matriarch, the You Do As I Say and You Believe As I Believe or I will spew venom at you. I will argue my point to madness. I will hurt you and belittle you with all the power I possess. She may have been a… Read more »
So Narcissism is the new buzzword for talking about our exes now then?
Anonguy
I don’t think we should give a diagnoses to anyone.
We are not qualified
and frankly I see it as just another way to stigmatize all people with severe emotion problems .
This does not I mean that I am fond of mean people that use and abuse others , but please let us stop using diagnoses when we angry at someone, like our ex , the boss or troublesome neighbours.