Thomas Fiffer shares a thought-provoking observation about the bond that holds relationships together.
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Occasionally, thoughts come to me that help me explain concepts that we often struggle to understand. Our minds tend to look for simple solutions—or to surrender to complexity. Relationships are an area that many people find confusing but everyone has an opinion on, and the other day, I came up with and posted the following passage on Facebook:
When we think of an emotional bond, we think of a cord or tie that holds people together, a connection, and the accompanying feeling of connectedness. In finance, a bond is a promise to pay, and if we extend the concept to relationships (without making them transactional), we can see that the relationship bond–the actual connection–is based on a promise, a promise to be present, to engage, to connect and reconnect, to share and to care, to love and to cherish, and to show (rather than pay) interest consistently. In other words, the key to the bond, and the key to connection, is trust.
If you are in an intimate relationship, how do you view your emotional bond with your partner?
What makes you feel connected or disconnected?
What do you consider the ultimate relationship glue?
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