Ross Rosenberg and Lisa Romano explain why trauma survivors feel numb and disconnected–and how disassociation impacts relationships.
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Lisa A. Romano and Ross Rosenberg discuss how and why disassociation or emotional disconnection is a coping strategy or defense mechanisms to deal with or manager deep internal emotional pain of loss, trauma, neglect and/or abuse. The discussion includes how one’s disassociation is an element of codependency, Self-Love Deficit Disorder or someone who is an Adult Child of an Alcoholic.
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When I was a child, I disassociated whenever I was under stress. Everything around me would fade out and I felt like I was in a tunnel.
During the little contact years ago, I never said no, but I had to respond in the only possible way. My heart wanted to accept, because it is in my fiber to do good, but my reason refused to take an unnecessary risk for all the people involved. There were two causes for that, things that I felt, even if I didn’t know: a. I was a liability and I didn’t want to fall because of this and become a wreck. I already felt my situation very frail and look how right I was and how much pressure was on… Read more »