Nothing’s worse than being put in the ‘friend zone’, when you really thought she was into you! Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert removes the block to reading women …
Question: How do I know if a woman is really interested in me or just sees me as a friend? I feel so ashamed and just “duped” after falling for a woman only to find out that she has a serious, live-in boyfriend and they have two (YES TWO) kids together!
Answer: First please put down the 2×4 you’re using to hit yourself over your head for being duped. I was duped by my 2nd husband big time. Happens to the best of us. You may have been duped yet you’re still a whole complete wondrous child of God. As my Dad used to say, It puts hair on your chest.
Next, tell me more about being ‘duped’- like she went on dates with you for months, kissed you, slept with you, talked future with you? Or she was just nice, kind and radiant around you?
- If you were literally seriously dating her only to find out she totally used you and had no intention of a long term committed relationship, then yes, there are pathological liers out there, and your job is to get more grounded in your body, dissolve all neediness so your intuition can alert you that it’s too good to be true, that something’s off and for you to be direct and ask questions.
- If she was just nice and you read too much into it… then consider that there is a lonely, needy part of you that doesn’t feel enough or approved of that you can heal from the inside out. Instead of filling yourself up with the attention of others, you could have access to your discernment and you’d know your worth. You’d be able to decipher a friend from a love interest.
- Be wiling to be direct, ask questions when you get to know someone. What are their relationship goals? Perhaps she thought you knew she was poly and didn’t think it was a big Deal. Perhaps you’ve been living in fantasy land and it’s time to sit in the fire of discomfort and ask direct questions so you give your precious time energy and money toward a woman who values what you value in relationships.
Bottom line is that life is friggen’ scary when all you have to go on is your spinning mind of fear, doubt and judgment. You have every right to be scared because you can’t see tragedy coming and you end up being hurt over and over again. Life becomes potent, joyful and an adventure when you can access your truth, discernment and KNOWING in your body and being. That’s when life becomes a game. Thus it’s imperative to Know what you Know and my complementary report and video series will help you drop into the noble badass you truly are. Download it now at www.GetHerToSayYes.com . My gift to you.
And lastly, as crazy as it sounds, perhaps we could look at this woman as a gift to bring you HOME to your deep knowing inside, your worth and your capacity to embody the grandeur that you truly are. Not just to have a healthy hot relationship, yet to know you are enough, you matter and the world is blessed that you are in it.
Great love, Allana xoxo
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