What happens when you have a fear of expressing emotions, and hide your embarrassment and shame?
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Thirteen Brittish men open up to share why it’s tough to be a man in Britain today. Men face huge pressure to be strong and silent.
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God God, and we are blaming masculinity for that? I’m not sure what I watched, but it sure was not masculinity, and I’m not taking the hit for that one. What I see is men being told, and trying to achieve the status of unicorn, and being punished with silence and brutality for not achieving such. I don’t see weakness in those men, I feel sadness for them. What I saw was a big fat void left in the wake of false teaching and no initiation into true holistic masculinity where our boys become open to all manner of suggested… Read more »
Thanks, DJ – my whole point in sharing it was to start a conversation and I appreciate your thoughts! Yes, it’s OK to cry and express feelings and be lifted up and lift others up. Absolutely!
You’re going to expand on it – a post? a post? (And I know other GMP editors have been wooing you)
Yes, Barbara. I feel like the only guy at the dance lately, and I don’t understand it. I’m a wicked arrogant jerk most of the time. Better check the water cooler. Someone might have slipped something in there. Yes, a post. I’ll have to put some serious work and thought into it though. Discussing masculinity these days a delicate matter, but . I think that I can bring a perspective that can help move the conversation along, in a good way. I hope so, because what I just watched was pretty messed up. There is no reason for it, and… Read more »
We still have a problem in society where men who cry are viewed as being weak.
Sounds familar.
When you’re constantly bombarded with how privileged you are and how you don’t respect women its hard to really speak up with what’s really on your mind because you’re constantly being told what is on your mind by people who frankly have no f’n clue.
Well said, Danny and G.
it’s why we need to continue to speak up, to participate in the conversation, to alter perspective by being as real and honest as all of you guys have been with your comments, as I will be when writing.
“The more you refuse to hear my voice, the louder I will sing.” -Labi Siffre
Thank you Barbara, it was very direct and to the point. Sadly, a lot of the information shown at the end has been known and available for quite some time yet here we are, July 2016 and the numbers are not getting any better. Sharing information is GREAT but what is society doing about it? We know the answer, right? The mere fact that the numbers are getting worse speaks volumes. As Ted said, it IS depressing. It’s depressing because nothing is happening to change it. All we hear is about the “toxic” masculinity and as far as I’m concerned… Read more »
Thanks, Tom. Change starts with awareness, a desire to change and then a conversation about how to make that change happen. That was my goal and I appreciate you adding to the conversation.
Now that is completely depressing isn’t it.