A man asks Eli and Josie for help in convincing his wife to allow him to film her in the bedroom.
Dear Sexes: The other day, I asked my wife of 15 years about me recording the act of her giving me oral. She loves doing it, and her face looks SO sexy while she’s doing it. It’s just something in her eyes. Ya know? I know she’s self-conscious about her body after 2 kids, so I suggested she keep her clothes on. She’s still hesitant. How do I continue to pursue this, albeit politely? If I get a definite “no” I’ll stop asking, but I want to try it, if only to delete it right away.
She Said: Dude, come on. We’re all friends here, let’s be honest. You’re not going to delete that video right after. Seriously?
I’m all for videotaping the best moments in life (and this is one!) but what’s the point if you’re just going to delete it? I think your wife is giving you a wavering “no” because you’re full of shit and she knows it.
If the act of holding a camera on her while she works her magic turns you on, how about you just hold the camera up and role-play this little game? You can look through the lens and pretend, just don’t roll any film. She’d probably be more likely to do something sort of naughty if it’s actually guaranteed not to be seen by the Genius Bar (or your children).
Thing is, a hesitant “no” is still a no. Get to the root of the no, have a conversation where you’re open and non-judgmental about her reasons. Her concerns over the Geek Squad knowing what song she hums for you are legit, give them respect! Have the talk, try to resolve it, and then let her be if you can’t.
He Said: I’m all for keeping it fresh in the bedroom, and for trying new things. However, some people just don’t take to the camera.
Perhaps the only reason you haven’t received a “definite no” is because your wife is being polite, and humoring your interest. If she wants to go through with your oral video, and allow you your directorial debut, you shouldn’t have to coerce her. If you’ve already made your pitch (a few times) I think you should allow her come to you on this one. If, and when, she’s ready, then you can get ready too. Lights, camera, action! However, there’s a chance you might be hard-up to find a leading-lady (of your choice) for this film.
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